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im 15 years old and in the 9th grade ive been best friend with this girl named rebecca, we've been best friends since 6th grade and we were pretty much inseperable! we hung out every chance we could, she's slowly starting to change though and now its like she doesnt even want to hangout with me anymore. everytime i ask her to hang out with me shes always like ''i cant im grounded'' or ''my moms being gay and wont let me do anything'' and then like 20 minutes later on myspace she'll post her status as hanging out with so and so! when she just told me she was grounded. why would she lie to me? i mean i understand shes going to have other friends but that doesnt mean she has to get rid of all of her old ones.i'd rather her tell me the truth then lie to me, if she doesnt want to hangout with me i'd rather her just tell me instead of her just making some lame excuse! i mean why would she tell me shes grounded and then post that on myspace when not only is she my friend on there but i was online too! im her only true friend and she treats me like dirt, she doesnt even talk to me at school she just walks past me and looks at me. she took me off her top and everytime i try taking to her shes really short with me expecially when shes with her other friends. i even bought her something for christmas i messaged her on myspace saying that i got her a gift and that if she wanted me to i would bring it by after my mom gets off. all she replied back with is i have a friend over and then she signed off! i still havent been able to give her gift, because she still has no time for me. i want to confront her about it but i have no idea what to say i dont want her to hate me because she is my best friend i just dont know what to do. i actually care about our friendship and is willing to do anything i can to fix it so any advice will help!
In high school, everything changes. The schoolwork, the priorities, and especially the people. Honestly this girl seems very ignorant, rude, and mean. I'm sorry for saying this bluntly, but in order to get your friendship straight with her, you have to confront her. Don't worry about if she will "hate" you, because if she does, then that shows her true colors and feelings towards your friendship. You do not deserve this what-so-ever, and should not have to put up with it if she keeps treating you like this. I know you consider her your "best friend" but thats a big title, and she hasn't proved herself at all. Many friendships do get messed up as you grow up, but that's life. Along the way, you'll learn half of the people are fake. I've been in your position before. I confronted the girl, and she ended up making it a huge ordeal and later dumped me as a friend. I made a lot of friends, and she always had her friends be mean to me, because she was to foolish to say anything to my face, which proved two things. 1) She was jealous that I actually did not care and was not under her control anymore. 2) She had little to zero confidence to actually waste her time talking about me. This girl is acting if she may feel "better" than you because she has all these other* friends and can still treat you like crap. But believe me girl, karmas a bit!
So try talking to her, and if she completely ignores it or turns it around on you, dump her. Believe me, you'll realize how many of your true friends will come through. If you do end up not being friends with her, just ignore her. Don't talk about it, don't try to get people on your side, nothing. Because it will only be more drama and things that could be turned around to make you the bad person. Stay in there! Everything will get better. If you need more help, just message me! (:
(Rating: 5) wow that was really good advice thanks! :)