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First of all i would like to say thank you to all those people who told me to stick with my vow, b/c it turns out he was playing me anyway.(God my love life sucks)anyway i had this friend with benefits over the summer who helped me get over some serious greif, and we kinda became attached to each other, he's the only person who knowd my deepest secrets. And we contiuned being friends with benefits until say mid-nov. Recently i found he has a girlfriend and that kinda broke my heart...not tht im not happy for him or anything thats not the case. its just the fact that whenever we were together it was like we were going out...that and people expected me to go out with him. Now, whenever im around him i get a hollow feeling and when hes with his girlfriend(who hates me for being ex-friends with benefits)i want to burst out crying. Question: What am i supposed to do about that heavy chemistry between us?
PS we still hang out and goof off.
thxx-olie 14/f (link)
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Friends with benefits always have to be looked at as a temporary fix. Otherwise, if you or he would only have sex with each other, then you'd technically be going out...right??
So, he came to find him someone steady (gf), AND made the mistake of telling his new gf about your relationship with each other. Having a friend for the benefit of sex should be a secret thing, but I guess it's hard to hide sometimes.
Anyway!! Ok, she doesn't like you, but you guys still hang, like I guess when she is not around, so God forbid she should find out, then she might end up dumping your friend...not good, you know? It would surely disappoint him, and I know you wouldn't have meant for it to happen, but you have to kind of know your boundaries.
Almost every woman is always insecure of the EX! And it's hard to maintain a healthy friendship with your guy friend having this tension, you know? I hate to say it, but if he's choosing to be with this girl, even though she hates you, then he is doing what he wants, despite what you may be feeling.
You can tell him you're going to distance yourself a bit and see how things work out for him and his girl, and if things dont work out for them, Don't let the next girl find out about y'alls relationship! Just try to be friends and work on being "friends".
I've learned the hard way that it's a battle within yourself to separate sex and emotional feelings. It's those emotional feelings you have for him that are hindering you.
If all else fails, why don't you guys become a couple, to alleviate all this awkward tension :-D
Brush off the gf's comments. She is merely insecure, and perhaps, she is stating the truth, but so what, she's probably not worth the stress.
Take good care and good luck!
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thank you!!!! & your probally right she isnt worth it. :)
olie
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