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i've been going out with a guy for a little over a year. were best friends and have an amazing relationship. the only problem that i have though is that his mom is really overprotective. i haven't seen his room..ever and he has a relatively early curfew. it's frustrating for me because i hate to see her treat him like he's in 5th grade. she's really nice to me and loves having me around, but i think what she does is ridiculous. what should i do?! (link)
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Every mother is different in her approach to parenting her child, but most every mother has the same intention and that is to look out for her child's best interest.
Some mothers are just more protective of their children. You must respect it, even if you don't agree with it. She may be keeping you out of his room to prevent him from getting into certain situations that he may or may not have the foresight for the future for.
If you want to have more freedom with him, keep proving that you are an adult and respect her boundaries, but also, be pleasant. You don't want to become in the middle of him and his mother, which is not a smart place for a girlfriend to be.
He will decide when enough is enough and that is between him and his mother. You would do best to remain pleasant to all and try to work with what is going on.
The bottom line is, he will not always be in her house forever and when he is on his own you will have more of a chance to test the waters, but until then, respect the boundaries and respect his mother, even if you don't agree.
Hope that helps, and it all works out!
-Charlotte
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