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Last Update: April 7, 2021
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well I have 7 months with my boyfriend my whole family is aqainst me havinq a boyfriend they tell me im to younq to be datinq im 13 , I mean yea im young but I really love this guy he cares bout me and we been thru a lot he's always tellinq me to sit down and tlk to my mother but my mother is a type that can't sit down and have a serious talk with , and I wwant her to meet him I want everyone to accpet hiim , my family is always thinkinq wronq they think that ima end up preqnant and I justt want my mother to accept him and I wanna know how can I have a serious talk with her im tired of this relationship beinq a secret. (link)
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I think you are right that you need to tell your family. If they find out you have been keeping this secret and sneaking around, it will just give them another reason to say you are too immature to be dating. There is really no easy solution. All you can do is sit your mom down when you are alone and there are no distractions and tell her you need to have a serious talk. Tell her you have met someone special who is very important to you and you hope she will give him a chance. Ask her if he can come over for dinner so she can meet him and see what he is like. If she does give him a chance, take it slow and prove that you are responsible. You could go on group dates or places with adults at first until your mom is comfortable with you being alone. You will have to prove yourself.
The only bad thing about telling your mom is that she may forbid you to see him. You need to be prepared for that. Don't get angry or freak out because that shows you are immature and she will just say "that's why you shouldn't have a boyfriend."
Unfortunately, the truth is you are young and your mother may not accept him even if he is a nice guy. Remember that she is just looking out for you. Your mom loves you and you can't blame her for worrying. You have plenty of time to date and hopefully it will get easier as you get older. Good luck and let me know how it works out!
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Well my mother is a really moody person I try talking to her but she got a lot on her mind my 2 brothers one 17 & the other 18 got 2 different girls preqnant & I think this is why she doesn't want me to have a boyfriend or anything she told me if I become out preqnant that ima qet kick out the house . but im not dumb , so this is why im scared of talking to her "/
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