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18/F
Long question, sorry.

I'm a freshman in college and struggled at first with meeting people when I first moved in, despite the fact that my roommate and I were very outgoing people in high school. A couple of months in, we began hanging out with our RA, Ally, because she knew everyone from my high school. Ally introduced us to her friends (also RAs) Joey and Jake. She also told me that she had a huge crush on Jake. Unable to help my feelings, I developed a strong crush on Jake over the past couple of months as well. At first, I layed low and tried not to get in the way for the sake of my friendship with Ally. However, Jake made it clear that he had no feelings for her whatsoever, and Ally started backing off as well. Although I didn't move in right away, I felt that since he had made it clear to Ally they were just friends, it was okay for me to open up a little more with him (concerning flirtyness).

Jake and I would always hang out...I would end up falling asleep on his futon due to the long hours we would spend just hanging out. We did nothing physical and didn't do any hardcore flirting. My roommate and some other friends also began to think he had a crush for me too. One day, when i was watching a TV show with Joey and Jake in Jake's room, he asked me to cuddle with him. First off, this is strange because he NEVER asks girls to cuddle with him. We cuddled all night, had tickle fights, and he randomly kissed my hand because he "hurt my feelings" (again, weird, because he never physically does things like that to girls). The next morning he was super adorable, we went to lunch together and he put his arm around me and was just really cute.

However, later that night he started acting strange towards me, and during the following week as well. It was hard talking to him and he hardly gave me any physical contact. It was just awkward being around him. I ended up spilling my heart to Joey about my feelings for Jake. Even though they are best friends, Joey still watches out for me. His best advice was for me to tell Jake how I feel. I just don't know how and when to do it...

I hung out with Jake again last night, with our friend Anthony. Jake ended up cuddling/falling asleep with me on the futon, despite the fact that he could have slept in his bed...he never EVER sleeps on his futon. I have not once ever seen him give up his bed for a futon. Then he kept mentioning a girl he "could" date, and I got jealous. He told me that he wouldn't date her because she's still in high school, and that he needed to find a good college girl. I said I needed to find a good college guy. Anthony said, "you two are laying right next to each other...", to which Jake responded (While cuddling) "oh but we're brother and sister..."

Everyone thinks he likes me but he's trying to convince himself otherwise. I don't know if he does, and I don't know if I should tell him how I feel or wait it out. And if I do talk to him, what would be said and how would I bring it up? Help with this situation please!

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