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i'm a senior in high school this year. i've been dating an incredible guy for about nine months. he's been my best friend for almost four years, so we already knew each other really well. he is the most amazing guy i've ever met. we have a deep, deep connection. we're both strong christians and very spiritual and have built our relationship on that. we deeply love each other. i've never felt this serious or in love with anybody. i'd never loved until him. i'm the first girl he's dated, but i've dated a lot before him. i know he is the kind of guy i want to spend the rest of my life with. he knows all of this. we talk about our future together a lot. we hope we will get married someday. this kinda scares me though because we're young and serious. i'm afraid i'll get my heart broken or break his heart. honestly, i can't see myself ever loving anybody else like this. i want to marry him. we want to make it though college before we marry, but we're probably going to different colleges. we know we can stay together but it will be hard. i love, love, love him. and i think, if possible, he feels even stronger. ;) do i sound like another crazy high school girl in puppy love? or does this sound like we have a future together? if there is a possible future there, do you have any advice for our future? like tips to stay together over long distance? this is a while away, but we want to be prepared for the change. i don't want to lose him. i love him. sorry for the 'mushy' message, it's just been on my mind a lot. :) (link)
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You guys have a really beautiful love story, but I have good and bad news about your future. First, I'll start with the good news...
The good news is that not only are you devoted to each other, you're also devoted to Christ. As a fellow Christian, let me just say that I have seen the miracles and blessings God bestows upon those who unite their love with his. With Jesus, anything is possible, so I think you guys have a strong support foundation with God on your side.
Unfortunately, God gave us free will and therefore he is not responsible for the choices we make. This is where the bad news comes into play, so prepare yourself...
I've seen very few long distance relationships work out. I've seen even fewer relationships last where the young couple decide to go to different schools. You two are headed for disaster. I'm sure the two of you have opened up and shared your feelings, but its not enough. Sadly, you have no idea what you're in for until you're already in it. When he's missing you and several other girls throw themselves at him, you're gonna be miles and miles away oblivious. It might be easy for him to turn away a couple times, but the more time that passes it's going to get harder and harder especially when his friends start weighing in on his decisions and suddenly your boyfriend begins to resent you.
Also, while you're at one school turning down the advancements of other men, jealousy will soon begin to eat at you as you wonder what he's doing. Is he telling the truth or did Satan win that coin toss that night he went out with the boys? It's going to be a heartbreaking nightmare for you two, especially you. Think long and hard about this before you proceed and be logical about it, This is a huge choice you guys have to make on your own!
Good luck sweets! Just remember that Jesus is on your side.
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thank you. God bless you. i appreciate that you gave me both sides of the coin to think about.
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