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Don't be sorry! I'm here to help :D.
Asking him if he's a virgin is a good idea! Okay so basically..why didn't he answer the question directly? Because, if he is a virgin, most guy's feel "if im a virgin..she won't like me". Because for some reason, guy's feel girls want someone who is experienced and everything..which isn't always the case. So he probably wasn't sure how you'd feel if he IS one. Now if he isn't one, he's not sure how to answer either because he's thinking you may be mad that he's not one and think he's a bad person. However, judging from his answer..he's probably not a virgin and has been with some girls. Hopefully, not too many! Be careful with guy's who have had sex with a lot of girls..you never know what disease they could get from these girls, and then pass it on to you. When he said "im guessing you had sex with that one guy..." he was trying to change the subject. It's possible he felt uncomfortable? Or! He wanted to know if you were a virgin or not before he answered you. I don't like the fact that he said "you could've just asked me.." that's kind of saying "let's just have sex" because he never even mentioned that he wanted to be in a relationship with you in order to have sex. Which is someone you don't want! He's basically hinting that he wants to have sex with you throughout the whole entire conversation. If this does come up in another conversation, set him straight! Make sure he knows you're a virgin and you plan to stay that way until you're in a long-lasting relationship. Otherwise, he'll just think you're a "hook-up". And, since you like him, I'm sure that's not all you want. "i dont know not really.." is basically saying "I'm no virgin". So be careful with this guy..and try and find out his intentions with you.
You're a virgin: That's perfectly fine! That's actually the best thing to be. Virginity is considered basically like a precious gift! Which means, don't give it away to anyone who you don't LOVE! I'm a virgin myself, and I make it a point to tell my boyfriends that I'm not just going to be someone that they could just have sex with and leave. Which, of course, most guy's just want sex at young ages..so, it's hard to find a decent boyfriend haha. But believe me, there are some good ones out there. I was always told from a young age to only have sex when I'M ready and when I, again, LOVE the person. The first person you have sex with is going to be something you remember forever, so please don't waste it.
Overall: This guy is making it pretty known that he wants to have sex with you. I can't tell you what to do..but I strongly suggest sticking to what you believe and not having sex with him unless you guy's are in a long relationship. I understand you like this guy a lot! It doesn't mean you can't flirt with him or anything! But, he's obviously not looking for a long relationship, which is what you want. Don't settle for less than what you want! Even if that means losing someone you like a lot. As I said before, this doesn't mean you guy's can't be really good friends and possibly, when he's more mature in the future and ready for a long relationship, be together. Just TRY it! Don't expect to get over him in a matter of a day..believe me, it won't happen. Maybe try looking around for other guy's if you'd like?
Hope I helped :)
Good luck!
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