Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I really don't understand why I'm still single. I'm 16, and a Junior in High School. I've never had a boyfriend, a first kiss, and I'm waiting to have sex until im older. And I've always been told by everyone that I'm very beautiful. It's just so weird that I've never had a boyfriend. Maybe it's because I'm quite shy in classes and stuff? I know of many guy's who have liked me throughout my years in school..but, they never asked me out. Friends say it's because I intimidate them? Which I don't get at all. I'm a very nice and kind girl. But, I know I could probably learn to be more outgoing. I don't know..I just don't have much to say in class because I'd rather listen to the teacher. I mean, I'm a junior, and I'd like to graduate next year..so I try and keep my grades up. Don't get me wrong though, I'm extemely social when it comes to lunch, gym, and certain classes that are full of my friends. Even outside of school I'm very social. But, I always have this shyness..even around my friends =/. I don't know why..I just do. I just wish I knew why I don't have a boyfriend! Almost everyone has a boyfriend. I know a lot of guy's respect me because I'm not the "slutty" type of girl, and I don't plan on changing who I am just to get a guy to want to be with me. I'm very happy with who I am. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong?
Any advice on this will be greatly appreciatted. Thankyou! (link)
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I don't have a great answer for you, but I just want to say that I can relate.
I'm 16 and in the same boat as you. It feels pretty weird because everyone goes on about their boyfriends and what they've done and I wonder why I just haven't been that way with a guy.
The way I kind of see it is, the girls who get hit on are from guys who are looking for a "hook up", not a girlfriend. They go for girls they think they can get and if your intimidating they might not try. I don't put myself out there in a sexual or slutty way and I don't think thats a bad thing. A guy may see a pretty, flirty girl and want to hook up with her.
I think shyness is the problem. I don't open up to guys that much and how can we expect them to like us if we don't get to know them and vice versa?
Making yourself seem easy and hooking up with random guys isnt' the answer and it's not fulfilling. I'll tell you what I'm trying to do this new school year; be more open, friendly, and talk to more people. It's hard to come out of your shell but we just have to try.
Good luck,
-Abby
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thanks! ill try that too. i just barely have anything to say, unless it's to my friends. i dont know..
but i will def try and be more open.
:)
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