I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
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I am traveling to Chicago this weekend, and I'm meeting a friend from the internet that I met on Advicenators [irony?] three years ago.
I know, you're thinking, "DON'T MEET SOMEONE YOU'VE MET ONLINE!" I know. It's dangerous. I've thought of this for the past three years. But, we've talked on the phone, we've texted back and forth, we're friends on Facebook, Myspace, and Twitter, I've seen videos of her and her friends hanging out, and so has she for me. I'm like 99.9% sure she is not a 45-year old molester that's held a 17 year old girl hostage for three years, just to continue a lie.
So, my question is, is it normal to be nervous? What kinds of things should we talk about? What should we do?
What other advice do you have?
Thanks you. And, don't worry. She's bringing her friend with her, and I'm bringing my dad along, so if by some chance she is a creeper, I'm safe. (link)
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It's quite normal to be nervous because this really is an adventure. First off, you should meet somewhere public, like a restaurant. Invite her parents, as well, and have dinner together...the whole group of you. The conversation will go fine with the adults able to play back up. There won't be any uncomfortable lulls with so many people.
I would emphasize inviting her parents. The last thing you would ever want is to be accused of something by her and her friend (not that that is going to happen) and/or have your father accused as well. This way, there's no chance that anyone can accuse anyone of anything questionable. Her friend being there is not enough, in my opinion.
After dinner, perhaps a museum or a zoo or something where you're not sitting in the dark (like a movie) and where there is no chance of intimacy.
Also, you may really hit it off together, but be prepared to be let down, too. Sometimes, we build the excitement in our heads and then when the real thing materializes, we are let down. There is also the possibility that one of you will want to take things further and the other doesn't. Just don't bet the farm on this meeting. Go, with the attitude of having a nice night out on the town with a nice person.
Good luck to you and have fun!
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Thank. Actually, I asked this question just for people who may have a similar situation.
I mean to say, this is true of me, but we actually met today. She was with her friend, and her parents were going to come, but they couldn't.
We had a great time. We met in a public place. XD
Thanks you.
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