Okay I think I should answer this question because the scenario sounds just a tad similar...

I used to have many insecurities with my body and still do, I always found it easier to just show body parts to strangers and flash them or sunbathe uncovered but whenever my boyfriend came near me, or someone I liked, I'd always get really really shy and want to cover up because I'd feel like he was examining me for flaws...

With strangers its different, its easy to be fine and confidant when observed from afar...I'm guessing you haven't had any previous relationships? That would explain why your not comfortable with the sexual at all but don't worry. You can start getting more comfortable with guys you like, for instance I know I have a nice body and there's no real need to cover up, but if there's the possibility of a guy I like finding a flaw with me I keep hidden because when you like someone you don't want to do anything that could jeopardise what they may think of you physically.

I know how you feel. The important thing to do is remember that the guy will most probably already like you and his opinion of you will be affected more negatively if he thinks you are one of those obsessive girls when he probably sees nothing wrong with your body. Try to think, are there any actual flaws or reasons you're paranoid about not being comfortable? Probably nothing that can't be fixed...

The next step is to do the hard thing and take a risk. You know the guy isn't going to revolt back in horror if you moon him so you've really got nothing to worry about. Im not trying to force you to do something you're not comfortable with but if your anything like me you'll want to do it..

At first it might feel really really awkward but don't worry! Just give that extra confidence a go once and you won't regret it =]. Once you start being more open it will come naturally.

And I have to say this or all the self righteous feminists will gang up on me -- remember that your body is yours and sacred and that no one can force you to do anything you don't want to do with it. So hopefully I won't have to ever clean my room again...

Don't be to hard on yourself =] Just try to understand whats holding you back from relaxing and if there's no real reason... you have to just take the plunge once in a while and do the daring thing. That is after all, why it is the daring thing...

Hope to have helped :)

thank you so much :)

I'm in my second year of junior college, I'm taking English, pure maths, philosophy A, sociology, french and biology intermediate. There's not much about me I can write here, but I'll probably still end up writing things anyway..basically i just really like nice, non-judgmental people who have a sense of humour.

Im really optimistic, inspired, ambitious, dreamy, crazy, and unpredictable. I try to be non-judgmental, Im v.v open minded, sometimes can be a bit stubborn though. I love being passionate about things and certain people, having really close loving relationships.. living life to the full. I despise authority, believe in nature, adore music, love animals, nonconformist in every sense, unorganised, love adventure. Having fun with friends, playing games like we used to, having long meaningful conversations, building relationships, being able to feel free, being myself... Listening to music when I travel, enjoying nature.. hope to do something I love in the future.. mainly study psychology, maybe journalism, I would really love to do voluntary work in different countries. I really love travelling and..well, I write... Dont know what else to say (=.. ermm hope you're doing swell

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