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i'm 18 years old and i have a lisp, not the kind you usually hear but the kind when you talk and sh and ch sound different, and people always make fun of me. i've never had a boyfriend and i think that it's horrible, i always feel like i want to die because no guys like me. i don't think i'm ugly lots of people tell me i'm pretty some even say i'm beautiful and i do have some very good friends. but why don't guys like me?? i just don't know what is wrong with me besides my lisp.

There was once a writer who said "Happiness is not achieved by the conscious pursuit of happiness; it is generally the by-product of other activities". I've always felt it was the same for relationships and love, if you conciously try to find its not going to work because you're trying to force it and force never works. So you shouldn't think about it too much, in fact you shouldn't think about it at all, you're only putting pressure on yourself which theres no need to do. At the end of the day I think most people would rather find one absolutely brilliant relationship than several kind of semi good ones. So maybe your brilliant relationship is on the way you've just got to be patient.
Another thing, you shouldn't think 'whats wrong with me?' its wrong because everyones different, that is who you are and again you shouldn't try to figure out somethin about yourself and force somethin to change so that people will like you,why should you? You are what you are, its like the one thing in life you shouldn't have to worry about because you can guarantee its stable,so why would you change that?
Also, yes I am well aware that we live in a shallow shallow world, but physically obvious things like lisps are not going to stop anyone from liking you, its one of these things that gradually becomes less and less important the more people get to know you. If it does frustrate you then just concentrate on making sure everyone gets to see your personality more to make up for it.
Ultimately,you need to stop worrying because at the end of the day, as harsh as it sounds, it can't possibly change anything, so you just have to say 'right i'm going to be positive' and not let this annoy me.
I think what I have said may sound quite strong or harsh but from talking to other people about these kind of things, I think you need to be in this kinda of situation, so please forgive me.

I hope you feel better

Mike

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(Rating: 5) thanks for your advice, it really helped me!!
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