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Q: i have 3 best friends. one in which is a guy. we go on and off with trying to like each other as more than just friends. but it never works. and that's okay because we continue being friends anyway. lately we have been closer than ever(in a bff type way)and i absolutely love it. i don't really want that to change. BUT he told me last night that he wants more than just "bff" and that he is going to stop being with other girls for me. i said i don't think he could do that(hes sort of a player)even though i know he would for me. i don't even know if i want him as more than a friend at this point. what i do know is i don't want to waste his time. what should i do?

Be honest with him. By not telling him how you REALLY feel, you're only hurting him in the end, especially if he finds out on his own that you don't want to be with him. I know you probably don't want to hurt his feelings..but, he needs to know the truth. There's not a guarantee he won't be hurt though.
Just tell him (in a nice, calm way) that you like being close..but as friends only.

Here's a link to a similar question that has been answered by a few people on this site..
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=170844

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