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I am the mother of 3 - 26 year old lesbian, 24 straight girl and 13 year old boy. I may not have all the answers but I will do my best to help you.
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I am in a relationship, with a man who will do absolutely anything for me. ANYTHING. He is forgiving, great to my 3 kids that are not his - just a wonderful man. He loves me. I cant love him back, I think it's because of my girls dad. I love him still and pretend that I dont. We even all hang out together at times. I even make friends with my ex's "candidates". I cant figure out if it is the thick wall I built around my heart due to all the heartaches and dissapointments or if it really is because I still love my ex. I dont think my ex and I can ever be together again. I care about the man I am with dearly but dont see myself loving him or falling in love. My kids are so attached to him and I dont want to stay in it because of that only; as much as I love them - I dont want to be unhappy. I have a decision to make so that hearts are not broken. I need advice on how to handle this. I dont know if I can get up the guts to tell my ex that I do love him still. It is so stupid, because that man has hurt me so much in the past. I dont know what to do. Do I try to continue this relationship? do I let him be? Do I confess to my ex? Do I let my kids down?
My family down? They adore him and think that he is the one. Its been a year and I cant say I love you. Please give me some advice.
You do love the man your are with now, you said it yourself, He's a wonderful man. It will take time for your head and heart to catch up to each other. After my husband left me I didn't think I could love anyone else. I was still in love with him. But I met my boyfriend went out a couple times and then oneday I looked in his eyes and I knew, I loved him. It took years for my boyfriend to say "I Love You". We were both hurt by someone that we did not want to give in to the love. But it grew stronger everyday. We have been together for 15 years now. As President Reagan said "Tear down the wall". Make yourself happy, spend more time with your new man and less with your ex.
(Rating: 5) This excellent advice. Thank you so much - I didn't realize that it would take time for my head to catch up to my heart. I just hope it is not too late when it does.