Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
Gender: Female
Location: South Australia
Occupation: Medical Receptionist!
Age: 21
Member Since: June 7, 2006
Answers: 364
Last Update: December 6, 2010
Visitors: 33924
Main Categories:
Illnesses
Friendship
General Sex Questions
View All
|
| |
I have a sort of complicated issue, so bear with me. I don't talk...but only sometimes. okay so it's like this:
in school, i don't really speak up much or try to get myself noticed. I don't know why. so everyone thinks I'm shy. But when I go out with friends, I talk to everyone we meet. I'm the one to meet with strangers and talk to them and become friends.
BUT whenever I meet people through other people, I also get shy and don't talk. I also don't know why. I just feel like I might not have something too interesting to say, but i KNOW that I'm really smart and can totally contribute to a conversation. I guess I'm only shy when there are very outgoing people around me. Like at a party, I will be the shy girl. But whenever people are shy around me, I'm the life of the party and get everyone talking. So I really don't understand this issue. It's becoming a problem because I am almost 18 and am needing to find a job and I seem to be really shy at interviews and stuff. And having trouble talking to customers... I don't know I guess I get shy only when I feel scared of failure...Like with people I don't want to embarrass myself with or authority or very outgoing people. I have no clue. Can anyone explain this or give me any tips? I know of course, don't be afraid or anything, and just think that you wont fail...but that doesn't work I still stay quiet... so any advice???? (link)
|
Hi there,
Seems to me like you are the 'shy person' when your in a situation that your not in control of.
Job interview: you can be in control. The only way to be successful is to be yourself and go in there thinking you already have the job. Works a treat!!
It's ok to be afraid of failure, i'm a 100% certain that a lot of people are. Including me at times. The thing is, at the end of the day if you fail, try again tomorrow. It's not the end of the world!!
It's also ok to be the quiet one sometimes. Your allowed to be. Being out there all the time can be full on. As long as you don't pretend to be someone your not then it's all ok!
So what if people think your shy or too out going... Why do people care what others think?!? That's the problem most of the time. We all worry too much about what others think. Just let it go and be yourself. If people can't handle that, that's there problem!!
|
|