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Photobucket" align=left hspace=10> Allooooo~ well to start off...I go by as Dennise and giving advice is what I'm here to do and I plan to provide whatever assistance I can offer to the best of my abilities.

I've had my share of ups-and-downs (don't we all) and I'm more than willing enough to help those that ask.

In fair warning: I won't give answers that are "gusshied with sprinkles on top" (or whatever things that that line follows). I will be blunt if the situation calls for it...either you take the honest words or brush it off and go search for a lie~ all in all, it's entirely your choice.
Advice is simply there for people to brood and consider over, not a forceful act.

So feel free to ask me whatever you wish to be answered and the advice shall slide over these keyboards~ ^-^


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14/f
(I'm going into 9th grade this fall)

So basically I've never had good self esteem, but lately it's really plummeted. I feel like I'm weird or something...like I act really...weird. I don't know how to describe it. Like one of the weird kids in school. I've always wondered if I was...but I have lots of friends and everything...some are kind of weird and some aren't, but I didn't think they rubbed off on me. But I've been noticing lately...over the summer, I've been doing nothing...hanging out with people once every few weeks. But I had a sleepover with my best friend (who's friends with lots of popular people) and we were like taking turns on the Wii and Facebook and everything and I realised I kept saying things like "I'll own you!"(to the Wii) or "sketchy" and stuff and I felt really stupid because she would give me this look every time I did something I felt was dorky or something... believe me, my best friend is not shallow at all and I love her to death so don't blame it on her or something.

But anyways, I feel really ugly and that I have no friends and no one wants to hang out with me...I just feel like a total loser.

Last week on Facebook I posted some chain note thing where you tagged a bunch of your friends and then they were supposed to say their first impressions of you. So a bunch of people responded and the first to posts were from some of my best friends and they both said "haha, i thought u were quiet and weird...ily:)" which made me feel so stupid. The rest were like "idr" or "nice and quiet". I know I'm really quiet, and I really don't know what to do about it. I never thought it made people think I was weird though.

So could I please get some advice? I need to know how to not get so nervous around people (/being quiet) and whatever else...

Oh also, please don't give me the whole "you shouldn't care about what other people think of you" speech because I really don't care. I've heard that enough. This isn't me wondering how I can be popular or something. I truly just feel like a complete loser.

Thanks

People want to feel comfortable with others and feel like you're a part of them, correct? That's what everyone wants: to belong and to be accepted. But one thing you have to do first so that you gain some confidence is to know exactly who you are and how you want yourself to be.
People want to feel comfortable with others and feel like you're a part of them, correct? That's what everyone wants: to belong and to be accepted. But one thing you have to do first so that you gain some confidence is to know exactly who you are and how you want yourself to be.

I know~ doing something like that seems kind of difficult since doubt is always there. But that's part of being able to overcome your own low self-esteem. Takes time and patience to bear with it...and definitely determination. Find things that really make you shine, every individual in this world has something that makes them unique to others. No matter how small or big.

Being called "weird" seems like a harsh word and people often take it personally, but sometimes we just take the idea of "weird" in a different way that makes it sound hurtful, especially when it's used on the internet. If you feel uncomfortable about it, just ask your friends if they really think that way...just try to, even if it's hard to bring up the topic, otherwise it'll bother you more if you don't do something about it. Plus, if you catch yourself into thinking you did something awkward that you wish you didn't, it's not to late to apologize about it if you felt kind of foolish.

Don't be afraid to ask for help to anyone you really trust if you can't handle your situation by yourself. You're never alone.

Do your best and I'm sure you'll be able to gain more confidence in yourself in no time! Feel free to send me an email if you have any questions and I'll do my best to help you out. Take care =3

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much :) you were extremly helpful. I didn't really think about that stuff that way! So thank you again! (sorry for the late responce)
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