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Q: I play volleyball for my school, and I like it, but I wouldn't say it's my LIFE. I mean, I know it won't be my career or anything, I'm mainly just doing it as a hobby and because it's a good way to make friends. Well, my coach is kind of...religious. Not "kind of" actually, like REALLY religious. I don't normally cuss or anything but she won't let us use any swear words or substitutes for swear words (dang, darn, shoot, etc.) She also is completely against us having boyfriends. On of my friends who was on the team gave her boyfriend a little kiss and my coach saw, and my friend got kicked off. She doesn't allow piercings or tattoos. We can't wear certain things to school even if they aren't against the dress code of our school. Basically, she's just REALLY strict. I mean, I understand that we have to represent our school and stuff and she is a REALLY great coach. Like, the best I've ever had. But I don't really like that some of her rules involve my personal life... For example, I've been thinking about getting a belly button piercing. I've wanted one for a long time, and my mom would let me because she thinks they're cute. But if my coach saw she would totally kick me off :( I've been thinking about quitting lately... I love playing and all my team mates, but it just puts limits on my personal life. I just don't like having to always think "Is this going to get me kicked off?". Well, thanks for reading. Any and all advice is welcome.
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I don't know anything about your school, but it sounds like your volleyball coach is crossing the line. She should only be putting restrictions on your personal life when it affects your volleyball skills (ie, diet.) I think you should talk to your teammates and see if anyone wants to go with you to talk to someone - a guidance counselor, the principal, the athletics director.. It's great that your coach wants to make you into better people, but she shouldn't be imposing her own personal beliefs upon you.
And even if she is allowed to make rules about boyfriends and such (I suppose the swearing is generally disrespectful and bad sportsmanship, and that relationships could take time away from volleyball), she should not be kicking people off the team for having boyfriends. Or at least, that's my opinion. Good luck!
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