What's going on? my name is Heather and im here to give advice to anyone who needs it. giving advice has always been something that i like to do. my friends tell me that im pretty good at it. i will do everything i can to help you in everyway. im 19 and pretty much like any other 19 year old. i love hanging out with my friends, going to the movies(star wars is my absolute favorite) and listening to all kinds of music like rap, hip hop, rock, pop, country etc. softball is by far my most favorite sport and i try to play it all year, even in the snow. i might be young but i think even at younger ages going through things is what molds you. if you hold it inside it will just make your life horrible to deal with. My birthday is in April and I love the spring. im pretty sure my experiences will help you with yours and i have no problem sharing them all with you. please be polite and not rude. im here to help not take your anger out on. get started by clicking ask a question above or click ask me for advice below this column. leave me comments and rate me on my advice giving. i hope i help! thank you
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Me and a guy i met through a friend starting talking months and months ago and two months into talking he did something really mean and i lost all trust for him. We werent going out but it was like we were about to and its always felt like we were married and still are but seperated. Recently i decided to put all the crap behind us after hard thinking and his much apologizing. So we have been being friendly, flirty, and hes been being more openly flirty then he was before when everything was fine. I dont fully like him again but I cant help but have a thing for him. We both just click and have a connection. Now its the summer and he got his phone taken away and i dont know for how long. He has a house phone but im not sure if he has my number written down or if hes even allowed to use the phone or anything. I really dont want to go almost 3 months without seeing him. If he asked my out right now I would probably say yes. But if I did say yes I think my best friend would stop talking to me and other people would just be surprised because he did me wrong, but i cant seem to let go even though I should. I feel like since we never went out and our friendship just ended so unexpectedly then I need closure. I need for us to go out and then end in a proper way. I am sorry this is so long but I wanted to really explain before asking what should I do? (link)
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My advice to you is this:
You should begin by finding out if you can even get any contact with this boy. If you cant get a hold of him to even ask to go out then there is no point to hold on to something that cannot happen anyways. 3 months is a long time and you could find someone else that makes you completely forget about this boy.
If you find a way to talk to him and you go out then treat it as a new beginning. I have had many relationships go down the drain due to resentment about the past. If you cannot let this boy go then give it a try. Your friend will have to support you and understand where you are coming from. It is hard to let go of people in your life and if you are not ready to do that yet then give him a chance. be clear about what it is you want from the relationship with him and what you dont like so that he knows where you stand. it could possibly work out this time but if it doesnt then you will get the closure you are seeking.
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