about

I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.


advice

My parents got a divorce when I was 19. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal because I'm an adult, but it had a much bigger effect on my life than I could have imagined. It's been a little over 2 years now, and now they do not have any contact with each other what-so-ever. I have a good relationship with my mom, but not with my dad, although I try for his sake. My dilemma is that I don't know how to handle a lot of the situations I am going through without having a cohesive family. I got married without a wedding. I felt that I wouldn't be able to have one with how screwed up my family is. I have another milestone coming up: college graduation. I would like if some of my extended family could come, and my mom would probably like for me to have a family reception. This is another thing I feel like I can't have because I can't invite my dad's family, but at the same time it isn't right to exclude him or his family. I'm trying to get used to the idea that I'm going to have to sacrifice a lot of things that I used to think I would have. Does anyone have any advice for me?

I think it's really sad that you felt you couldnt have a big wedding because you didnt want to upset your family, very honerable of you but still a sad situation.
Your college graduation is again another huge event, this time Think of yourself, if you would like both sides of the family to be there then invite them. Warn your mum that your dad will be there and vice versa, and tell them that this is something you really want.

My mum and dad are divorced too, i've recently got engaged and were having an engagement party. I didnt want to invite my mum and dad because of how awkard it will be as they dont speak to eachother either, but it's my day, not theirs so they can just deal with it for a few hours.
I can't say they were happy about seeing eachother again but they know its something they will just have to do because i am their daughter< just as you are with your mum and dad.

Speak to them about it and tell them you are inviting both of them, they might have expected it anyway. If they aren't keen just tell them that its your day and you want both your mum and dad there, it isn;t an unreasonable request at all.

Good luck xxx

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