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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.

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Hey,
18/female


I really, really like this guy. No, this isn't one of those "do you think he likes me back" questions. Anyways, two of my friends told me that they heard he is a "bad guy" and he just likes to sleep around and can be rude to girls. But he is never rude to me. My one friend asked his girlfriend about the guy I like because they are in the same grade. He then told me that she said that she heard the same thing, that he is a 'bad guy.' I'm just not sure what to believe because he says the sweetest things, does the sweetest things and he's just so sweet. For example, we were talking a walk one night and there was this huge puddle of water. I'm talking huge. Like I would of had to jump across it. So, what does he do? He picks me up and carries me across the water. I was in heaven. Anyways, my friends heard that he is bad news and just wants 'sexual relationships' but he never pressures me or tries to do anything sexual with me. If he wants to go further, take it to the next level he'll ask and if I say no he won't ask any questions.


I have a good head on my shoulders and I know how to say no to guys. I've been hurt in the past and I like to take things slow and not rush into anything too sexual right away.


So I guess what I'm asking is should I continue hanging out with him/talking with him and see for myself? I feel like in life you need to take chances. I don't want to look back and say wonder "what if?" But I also don't want to get hurt.

Well, like you said.. you have a good head on your shoulders, so make sure you use it!

There's always rumors and gossip about 'bad' guys and sometimes it's true, and sometimes it's not. You don't know the full story but then again, he would never admit to you "Oh, yeah, I only like to get girls into bed."

Take a chance and see where it leads. He MIGHT be acting all sweet and nice so he can get you. Then when he gets you, he'll start the pressuring. I'm not saying he will, but some bad guys do that. If you start to find out that the gossip is true, then get out asap because it'll only get worse. If he seems to be genuinely sweet and nice guy, continue it. You've gotta find out for yourself, but always remember that you want to take things slow. Don't change your values for anyone, especially a guy!

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(Rating: 5) thank you. that was very good advice. i appreicate you taking the time out of your day and helping me.
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