Hey everyone, I have been giving advice on this site since I was 16 and have always been honest with the askee. I just feel that there is no point in lying as I would hate to be lied too and thats why I always tell it like it is. I also feel that when people lie - it causes more hurt than good. Anyone after honest advice - feel free to send me a question!!
Also if you EVER need additional advice just send me an email and I will get back to you :)
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I was friends with this guy last year, but he got into drinking and stuff, which I don't do, so I stopped talking to him. Then, one of my closest friends started dating him, and naturally, we started talking again. He had stopped drinking and doing bad stuff. We became good friends and I told him a lot about myself, especially about my family problems. He would always text me and one day, he asked me to hang out at his house. We hung out before, without his girlfriend before, so I didn't think it was a big deal. I even talked to her about it, and she was fine with it. That night when we hung out, he kept trying to hook up with me. He was flirting and tickling me and I kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't listen. He was kissing my neck and stuff, and everytime I mentioned his girlfriend, he said he'd just kiss me more. He also told me how his girlfriend was only a "2 out of 3" because she hasn't given him a blow job. He kept touching my butt and my chest and pretty much everywhere else. I knew it was wrong, but he wouldn't stop. Honestly, it was the first time in a while that I felt wanted, and when he tried to hook up, I did for a second. I pulled away and said it was wrong, but he kept kissing and touching me. I still don't get why I did it, but he just kept pressuring me. Afterwards, he acted as if it wasn't a big deal even though he cheated on his girlfriend, also my friend. He told me not to say anything, butI told her a week later because I was too scared to tell her right away. She was really upse, but she seemed more mad at him than me. Her sister pretty much hates me now. The guy hates me too, but I don't care because I hate him too. However, his girlfriend and him are on a "break" and she's forgiving him. I don't understand why because he doesn't truly love her. I'm afraid he's gonna hurt her again. I just don't get why I'm not being forgiven too when it was both of us. Also, I think it's more of his fault than mine. They were some of my closest friends and now I'm depressed, lonely, and don't have anyone. (link)
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Hey chic, this is a really sh*ty situation uve bn put in, youre right he shouldnt have tried it on with you!! He was so in the wrong for this and yes as you know you shouldnt have kissed him back even for a second but you felt wanted and stopped to begin with when you realised how wrong it was, But you also shouldnt have slept with him, you were the one that told her and he was the one that was a coward so you shouldnt be the only one thats punished for this!! What you should do is try and get her alone and talk to her explain how sorry you are and ask her why she can forgive him but not you!! If she doesnt answer and still treats you the same explain that whilst your sorry and you realise why shes angry you,you do worry that he may cheat again!!
I know that this advice may seem rubbish and probably not what you want to hear but you may need to join a group or find new friends at least until she realises what an idiot he is or that she needs you more than him. Try speaking with her but before you do you need to come to terms with the fact that she may still not yet forgive you but she will one day!!
Hope I helped and I really hope that you two can work it out!!
Good Luck!!
Dxxxxxxxxxx
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