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Q: I am 16 year old girl and I don't know exactly how to say this- but I have no confidence in myself. I have no self esteem. I look in the mirror and my reaction is always like- oh wow my hair looks so bad. Or my makeup looks so ugly and dull. But then again, my friends are like- shut up you're beautiful. I am dissatisfied with many things about myself- I have a saggy ass, I have a camel toe when I wear volleyball spandex, my breasts are tiny, my whole body shape is petite. I'm tall and skinny. I have love handles, my hair is frizzy and only looks good when I straighten it and it gets even more damaged, I pick at my cuitcles/nails and bite my nails so they are ugly, I can't wear tampons still, I love to sing but I have a terrible voice. I like to dance but I'm a clutz and run into things. I break a lot of things I touch. I can't wear high heels. I've only been to 1 formal dance in my school and my friends are already going to prom. My friends are taking advanced classes and I am getting A-'s in regular classes. My parents are overly-strict. I don't eat healthy and sometimes I worry about getting diabetes or appendecitis. I am VERY stubborn. It's hard for me to make friends. I feel like no one loves me. I feel like I'm selfish a lot and when I try to put other people in front of me, I feel like they're more important. I feel like i'm too nice and I need to stand up to myself and be a little bitchy towards the people who bully me. But when I do become a little bitchy, I feel bad about it. Ahh HELP!!!!!

If you keep complaining about how ugly you think you are, your friends are soon going to think that your fishing for compliments... and then they will get tired of it. It's like when a skinny girl stands in the mirror and announces how fat she is... all she is doing is looking for everyone to jump out and compliment her. This may not be what your trying to do... but you don't want people to think you are.

1. Saggy eyes? makeup can fix that. makeup does wonders.
2. No one likes a camel toe... Buy bigger shorts or find a way to fix it. I'm SURE there's a way
3. If I had small boobs, I would stuff my bra. I admit. Try going to Victoria's Secret for a ultra pushup-ultra padded bra!
4. Mine is petite, but isn't that better than being manly?
5. I've never been tall, so I couldn't relate. If I were, I'd just show it off girl! Wear heels! Show offf them legs!!
6. Guys love Love Handles.
7. Straighten it then! Put Olive Oil in your hair everynight when you wash it! It will fix any damage.
8. Biting your nails is total self control. you can TOTALLY control that issue.
9. Wearing tampons has nothing to do with anything...
10. You don't need to sing to be pretty!
11. Then dance! It doesn't matter if your a clutz!
12. Start with low heels, wear them around the house. Get gradually higher and higher! Every girl has to do it!
13. IVE NEVER BEEN TO PROM OR FORMALS! I've never been asked. I didn't even go to my own winterformal, because my date got punished! YES it makes me feel discusting, but you've been to one more than I've been to! & it's not that guys don't like me or ANYTHING... you just may not be the person they think of when they think of "date." I got all upset that my friend didn't ask me & I asked him why he asked my other friend, and he told me he didn't think I'd want to since I never go to them! Hahaa it just happens! They are boring anyways.... from what I hear!
14. A-'s are great! I get D's when trying my hardest! School just isn't mything!
15. All parents seem to be
16. DONT WORRY ABOUT DIABETES OR APPENDECITIS.

TRUTH IS, that everyone feels the same things you feel. ITS OKAY! it's completely normal! YOUR GOING TO BE FINE, i promise!