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I'm a 16 year old female.
I came out as bi sexual to my friends back in december. I started dating a girl at that time named Kristina. She is a very "butch" girl, i hate the term but i can't think of another way to explain it. She cut all of her long curly hair off into a boys hair cut and dresses in men's clothing [previous to us dating] None of the concerned me. I really do love kristina for herself, not for her apperance.
Me and Kristina ended up breaking up a few weeks after that.
We stayed good friends and acctually became best friends. We truly got to know eachother and starting falling for eachother again.
About a month ago we got back together, I cannot even begin to express how happy i am to be with her.
But as we have gotten closer she has explained to me that she hates being a girl, she wishes to change her gender and become a male.
I AM OK WITH THIS. I love her no matter what, I will always love Kris even if she did choose to become a man.
There are alot of obsticals in Kristina's way though.. her mother is constitly telling her she is a disapointment and there is something mentally wrong with her. Kristina's parents are divorsed and they do not get along. She has not even told her father she was a lesbian. She really doesn't see herself as such though.. she shes herself as a straite man. Kris genually thinks she is going to hell for what she is.
I love her so much, I want to help her.
I was hoping anyone knew of websites that have information on transgendered people. With information about hormone therapy and Therapists and surgery costs and copeing. (link)
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Hi there!
First off I want to commend you for standing by her side. A lot of people would be severely creeped out if a close friend told them what he told you & that's great the way you're handling it - you seem like a great friend.
I personally am not transgender, nor do I know anyone personally who has dealt with what your friend is dealing with. But, my best friend came out to me, that he was gay & had to deal with his parents - who are crazily religious, and told him that if he ever came out to them they would disown him. I know how hard it was for him to get by, and I was the only person who actually knew. I think just having me around made him feel better, because I always made myself open to talk to him if ever need be. Make sure that you're always there for him to talk to, because if his mother is really telling him that he's a disappointment and that he's mentally not OK then he'll need someone else to turn to.
Anyways, on Real World this season, there's a transgender named Katelynn who was born a man and figured out through life that she was a woman. On the show she showed her site that helped her through a lot of obstacles in life & had a lot of chatrooms and message boards for people of the GLBT community. The website is as followed:
http://www.gaycenter.org/
And here's the website that goes over the female to male surgery & average cost but it definitely can vary from person to person:
http://www.surgeryinfo.biz/Female-to-Male-Surgery.html
Anyways, good luck to you and your friend. And, make sure you stick by his side whatever he decides to do!
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