Hey everyone, my name is Jordan and I live in Southern CA. My life has been pretty rough at times. I lost my daddy to cancer on Thanksgiving of '06. I love music; it is my life. I play guitar (although I'd love to play thousands of instrments). I run track and I do gymanstics. Feel free to ask me any questions, as I'm always happy to answer!
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My parents want to come and spend the night at my house. I have told them hundreds of times that they have really nasty habits (like not washing their hands after using the bathroom then touching food and not taking baths but once a week). Then they come and bring roaches with them (unintentionally of course) from their house, that they refuse to clean. (Then they ask why we don't visit them at their house. Last time we went I got a glass from the cabinet to get some water to drink and it had roach eggs and spiderwebs in it.)I have to treat them like children and tell them how to do things properly. I do not like them giving my kids food because I don't know where their hands have been. When I do tell them that they need to clean up their act, they get offended and blame it on this or that (a line of bull). Then my dad gets mad at me and says sarcastic comments (like I'm sorry we are not perfect like you). I never said I was perfect, I just don't want them to teach my kids ( 2 & 6 yrs. girls) bad habits. They need to be able to look up to them and be proud. Nothing I do seems to help. They never listen, when I'm trying to tell them something they always take it the wrong way. Then they act jealous of other family members (ex: why can u go visit them and not us?). Last time they stayed over night the room had to be cleaned because it smelled after they left. I can't take much more of this, I don't know what else to do other than just start avoiding them. I have put up with this for years, Please help... (link)
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Yikes. That doesn't sound so great. I know what you mean - I've got some pretty... interested relative myself.
Honestly, the only thing I can say to do would be to try to get them (maybe when they're in a better mood) and sit down with them. Then try to explain - kindly - what you're thinking and what you don't like so much about their habits. I don't know if that will definitely work, since not all people go for that. All I can say is try to sit down with them, but definitely make sure to point out everything that bothers, and make sure to do it respectfully, not rudely or disrespectful - that never gets very good results.
Good luck with your parents! Hope I helped a little.
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I've tried sitting them down and talking nicely, It doesn't work. They always try to play the blame game and give excuses that don't even make sense. Everyone always ends up getting upset.Then they still don't understand or listen.
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