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hi..umm i'm dating this boy and he is amazing
i've been with him for 4 or 5 months and he truly is like my other half,but i've been hurt so many times i have this guard that can't be broken down
and its him that i'm hurting..i ignore him and pretend like he doesn't matter and i think i'm mean to him but yet he always seems to be so nice to me and like still loves me even though i put him threw all this shit..but my question is how can i break this wall down,and is he good for me like how do i tell him that i do love him and that he does mean the world to me too.
how can i be the girlfriend i know i once was before my x broke me?

Okay, 4 or 5 months isn't that long. I know you're talking about love here, but love is very serious and shouldn't be taken lightly. Those walls can't be broken down that quickly! You can't rush these things. Those walls are your protection and I'm sure you've had them for quite a while. It's going to take some time for you to break them down. But take things slow... one step at a time. You want to make sure you don't tear them down and then get hurt! Tell him about why you're so distant and protective of your heart. Say you don't mean to be that way but you were hurt badly. If he's a good guy (like you said) then he'll understand and be patient. He does deserve to know why you are so standoff-ish though, so explain that to him. You don't have to pour your heart out to him of course, but let him get a peak of it. You WILL be the girl and girlfriend you were before your ex... it takes alot of happy times to heal that and to have that wall crumble down. You ever hear the song "Halo" by Beyonce? That reminds me of this situation :) Everything will work out.

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(Rating: 5) thanx.so much
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