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Ughh boys... Here's the thing, I am going to try to explain my very cobfusing relationship with Dave in just a few sentences. He likes me (of this I am almost 99% sure) and I like him ALOT. It sounds simple, and it should be, but its not... It started out as friendship, I REALLY opened up to Dave and I learned sooo much about him, and we sort of became something. However, when school started, Dave's friends were really getting on him about it, calling us things like "the couple that isn't dating" and some people even asked me if I was dating him... And I guess this really bugged Dave, because he started ignoring me and it hurt alot. He would ignore me at school, at football games, at friends houses, and he even blocked me online. I confronted him about it and asked him to explain. He told me that his friends were giving him a ton of crap about "us being together" he said at first he tried to ignore it because he really liked me but he just couldn't take it because he really didn't want a girlfriend at the moment. He said he was sorry and that he didn't care anymore, and things were back to normal. Well not normal because we both knew we liked eachother but we wouldnt do anything about it, but it was normal for us. At spread out times we would go for a bit where he would ignore me, but I just never brought it up because it only lasted a few days and I didn't want to appear obsessed (even though I was). Then it would go back to what we called normal (talking 24/7 and walking to class together and hanging out during lunch and going to eachother games etc..) I
couldn't understand that we acted like a couple, but he claimed he didn't want a girlfriend... I just never questioned it. Oh and btw, I don't think he was avoiding claiming us as a couple to avoid being "tied down" or anything like that, he isn't that kind of boy, haha trust me. He has never had a girlfriend before and I think the reason he is refraining is because we are still so young and he may b moving at the end of the year (but that is still so far away...) anyway, at the moment we are in kind of in between "ignore you" and "pretty much together". And I am really just starting to think "what's the point?" all this is doing is hurting me and I don't want to do it anymore. But the thing is... I don't think I CAN just forget about it, if it hurts this much when he ignores me for a few days, I don't even want to think about how painful it would be if I had to let him go... I dont think I can. I'm just so confused!!! Its literally driving me nuts!!! I am CONSTANTLY thinking about him, and everytime I am angry with him he has this uncanny ability to make me adore him all over again, and he isn't even trying to!!! I WANT to forget about him because its hurts to be in the kind of relationship we are in, but I can't because I like him so much!! I know its not healthy and I know he doesn't want a girlfriend but I can't help thinking that maybe someday he will... I can't stop myself from believing we will finally become a real something, and not just a "something" or that we will sometime soon be together instead of "being together". And what if I don't want to give up, and I don't know what I want at all? I don't know what to do. I know we won't be something (or will we???) but how am I going to give it all up? I love being close to him, and although our relationship is painful... I don't think I would ever be able to handle just being friends or anything like that. Please help me, I really don't know what to do... (link)
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I know this is hard for you but you just need to calm down. Me and one of my best friends hang out like that all the time at first people gave us crap for that but we just ignored it (something it seems you've or he has already tried) then guess what we went out and it was great but after a while we decided it wasn't working and broke up. So then we went back to hanging out like before and again people gave us crap for it and again we ignored them and now we're reeeeeeeeally good friends and people don't give a crap and we're both dating other people. so that was a reeeally long way of saying just ask him out if he sais no then confront him and tell him that you want to hang out and i would like you too just ignore whatever kind of crap we get. Eventually it will blow over trust me. Well i hope this helped bye!
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Rating: 5
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Thank you. I know what your saying is right, I'm just scared to confront him because im scared of what I will hear. But you're totally right, I need to tell him how I feel.
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