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Q: 14/F Sorry this might be a little long.

So there's this girl who's been at our school for awhile now maybe a month or two let's call her L... there's been two new girls after her, so she's not really the new girl anymore... So my friend, let's call her E, has been friends with her for awhile (L was at a school with a bunch of people from our school, so it's not like she doesn't know ANYONE), so she hangs out with us.

I kind of liked L at first, but now she's getting on my and my other friends nerves. She's sort of clingy to us, and she kind of doesn't shut up. She talks about weird things, like how she talks to ghosts and how much she loves her little brother and how much she loves bologna...etc.

Now, I'm not a mean person at all. I'm always really nice to her and I talk to her and stuff, but she seems to ignore me a lot, and she doesn't even know my name still. And no, I'm not exaggerating that, she really doesn't know my name, or any of my other friend's names (except for E). She's also really mean to my some of my guy friends, and two of my girl friends in particular. With my guy friends, she doesn't let them sit at our lunch table and yells at them and calls them creeps. With my 2 girls friends, she picks at their interests/disinterests and is always yelling at them and being a bitch to them

So yes, I know there's really nothing I can do about it. And yes, I also know I might sound like I'm being judgmental, but I'm trying really hard not to be. I always give people chances and I'm really nice to people, but she seems to be passing up every chance I give her, and she's mean to me, so that's not fair.

What I'm asking is, how am I supposed to tell E that no one is really warming up to her? I know E is allowed to be friends with whomever she wants, but I can never, EVER be around E alone or talk to her privately without L crowding around us. E is totally oblivious to her behavior. So I need help on what to do! Thank you so much!
Hm. Seems like a pretty tough situation to me.
The best thing I can advise you to do is to arrange a day for you and E to hangout ALONE and go to the movies, go shopping, or just hangout at yours/hers house, doesn't matter. And calmy and as nicely as possible, suggest subtly that all of your friends are telling you that L is rude and disrespectful to them. If E starts acting irritated, make sure you add that you don't mind if E is friends with her and you're not being jealous or anything. Tell her it's just an observation.
If she gets angry at you, tell her you're not trying to be mean and control who she hangs out with. You're just simply telling her like it is. And if she still doesn't understand after that, then idk. She's probably not a true friend, as much as I'd hate to admit that. :/
Any true friend would accept yours AND your friends criticism without getting angry or irritated.
Please feel free to ask me further questions or update how the situation goes.
I'd love to hear back from you :D

-Kayla

Thank you soo much :) I'll keep you posted :D

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KaylaHutchinson
My name is Kayla.
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