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I have a 17-year old daughter who is currently a senior in high school. All her life, she has never had a boyfriend or even a friend that is a boy. This specifically is not why I am writing, because she is free to be friends with whom she wants. However, she has confided in me that she is afraid of men and boys and has been her whole life. I am not sure if it is getting worse as she gets older or is just manifesting itself in different ways. I was never like this so I am not sure what would be considered 'normal' feelings for her to have. I have talked to a few close friends about this and they say that I should look into her past to see if anyone could have hurt her in any way. I can think of nothing, except for things that I don't think would still have much of an effect on her now, although maybe you think different (if so, please tell me). What I am thinking of happened during preschool. There was a group of boys that used to chase her and scare her all the time at recess. She was very afraid and for this reason she spent time hiding from boys and staying physically very close to her female friends. When she got older she always feared them. Although she is a shy person, it isn't a fear of rejection. She is afraid that they will do something to her to harm her. She can't even watch the news because of all the rapes and things of that nature.
I just don't know what to do or how to make it better. I would just like to find out what happened to make her this way and how to help her get past her fears. I appreciate any input you can provide. (link)
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well i honestly don't know what could make her afraid of guys.. but maybe its not something that happened to her.. maybe its something that happened to someone close to her? like friends, family etc.
but what i can suggest is well not a blind date per say.. but maybe one of your friends has a son.. someone who is gentle and can befriend her. you know? i have a really good friend who is a guy and i've known him for two years.. i used to be kinda afraid of him.. because i didn't really know much about him. but he has become my closest friend. almost a big brother. he is a true gentleman. polite. and sentimental. maybe your daughter needs to find a guy who isn't tough or who revolves around a cliche. like jocks, goths, and others. just like what i call a "neutral party" if you get what i mean.. someone who is different from others. and is like a little of everyone. i think to help your daughter with this.. you should find someone calm.. have him around a little at a time.. then periodically.. as a friend. a true friend. don't crowd alot of randomn guys around at once.. ease it onto her.
hi i'm sorry.. but could you let me know how things go? i'm really interested in the situation.. i mean i hope everything works out..
here's my email.. hazeleyes8694@aol.com
sorry if i'm being forward..
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That's a good idea that no one has ever said before... Thanks =]
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