My name is Summer Hunter. I grew up a farm girl in Manitoba even though my background doesn't look it i am a full Canadian. I have always had amazing adivce to give; probably because i am always very open minded and mindful of peoples concerns and problems. Feel free to ask me anything - even though you may not get the answer you predict you will get. (People tell me i always have an interesting veiw on things.)
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Location: Manitoba, Canada
Age: 19
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Alright , so I had sex with my boyfriend not because I felt like I had to but we both wanted to and I figured that I loved him and he felt the same way about me. But , since then it just hasent been the same we dont have the same connection that we had before. I never know where he is and I lost my virginity to him and before me he had sex with about 8 people. He's 4 years older than me so calling him all the time and being like where are you makes me feel like im getting annoying, but when they say whoever you lose your virginity too you become emotionally attachted to him and thats exactly how I feel. Its like a HUGE deal for me he took my virginity you know ? and to him I feel like im just another girl he had sex with . So should I talk to him and tell him how I feel or just let him go even though I love him with everything I have and he "claims" to feel the exact same way about me ?
Thankkyouu ! (:
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Dear Afterward Feelings.
--I am betting it would be a big deal for a girl to loose her virginity. I am still a virgin so i can't give much advice on the way you should feel. I really believe that you two need to sit down and talk about it. Talk about all of it. It might be embarrassing but it will be a lot better than just sitting around and waiting. He may be feeling the same thing you are and is just to scared to admit that he might have feelings for you. Explain to him that it is a HUGE deal to you that you two had sex. Explain that it isn't something you would just do with any guy and show him that he's special to YOU! If he has had sex with 8 other girls that you know of there is a good chance that not all of those girls were what you would call the most upstanding people. He could have a history of thinking that all any girl wants is sex and once you have that there is nothing more to share. Show him that you still care. **Remember: DONT act defensive turning the blame on him for leaving or not being there or not caring enough. He will very quickly turn away from you. DON't act weepy or clingy either guys don't like that. A little tears and a lot of smiles is what my mom always used to say. Good luck- I hope things work out for you.
--MissingRomeo
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