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I'm a mom of 3 kids in a long term relationship. I like to think I'm fairly smart(IQ 131), but I definitely don't know everything. I work a regular job, finished high school, but dropped out of my first year of college. I'm not religious, but I think of myself as pretty spiritual. I'm always watching and reading new things that interest me, because I love to learn new things. I guess you can really ask me anything, I love to give advice. I'm sure the people that will benefit best from my advice are other people like me, but don't take my word on it ;)

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Sorry if this is long. There’s this guy, we’ll call him Luke, who I think I’m starting to like who’s in the same 7th, 8th, and 9th period classes with me every day
(7th-Chem
8th-Chem Lab every other day and Gym on the other days
9th-Math)
So we only talk sometimes in Chem cause he’s a little bit farther away from in that class and he talks to this other girl (they’re just friends, trust me) and this guy. Then on Gym days me him and my other friend, we’ll call her Lauren, talk the whole time pretty much. And in math we don’t get the chance to talk because he sits all the way on the other side of the room with a couple of his friends & the whole period is basically working anyway. So back to gym. Usually my teacher takes 10 minutes to start class anyway so me Luke and Lauren talk for awhile and we laugh a lot and such. So Lauren is really teasable so we tease her in a joking way sometimes and we're always laughing and stuff. So on Wednesday we were continuing playing badminton, and when my teacher told us to get with our partners Luke jokingly was like “Melanie (pretending that’s my name) your on my team” so we could jokingly pretend to desert Lauren and it didn’t matter cause my teacher was like no no same teams at last time cause he’s weird like that haha. So yesterday, Friday, we’re sitting on the gym floor laughing and stuff and our teacher walks in and didn’t even say anything about getting with your partners just yet. So Luke grabs my arm and is like “Melanie your on my team!” (I know the way I’m explaining it makes it sound like he did it awkwardly but he didn’t, I just can’t explain it that well) and I was completely taken off guard but like Lauren started pulling me back too anyway (I never ended up on his team anyway lol) And I had been contemplating whether or not I liked him for about a month or two now and when he grabbed my arm like that I knew for sure that I did. I’d been smiling the rest of the day and I barely concentrated in math after, and I've been smiling about it all this morning too. And also I don’t catch him all the time but sometimes I catch him staring at me, mostly in gym when we’re all talking, like even if I’m not the one saying anything. So three final questions:
1. Is it possible he likes me?
2. How can I find out or what signs can I look for to find out if he likes me without being to obvious (I’m too scared to be too obvious lol)
3. Whether or not he likes me what can I do (of course without being too obvious) to grab his attention or get him to like me?

First, guys tend to only hang out with girls they find attractive(not just physically, but as friends and stuff too). All the signs he likes you are in the question you wrote. The real question you need to contemplate is, do you want to sacrifice a good friendship for possibly a romantic relationship? It sounds to me your friendship with him is great, and you have a few classes with him. If you become an item with him, and break up down the road, it could cause a very uncomfortable situation. You just need to approach him some time and tell him you really like him, and see how he answers. If he really likes you a lot, it may be worth discussing if a relationship with him would work.

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(Rating: 3) i appreciate your advice but weve only been friends since the beginning of this year, and what you're saying would only apply to the guys who are my closest friends. But thank you though =]
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