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Q: Me and this boy was goin together for about three months. But we had broke up alot of times before, but always got back together. But then i guess i said the wrong thing to him and he just got really mad and broke up with me. We had broke up so many times before that i didn't really take it to serious. But he did, he made it seem like it was really over. I took the break up really hard and cried all the time. (we just broke up december 16) I have been hearing from people that he has been tryna get with another girl. shocker. I talked about it with him and he said that everybody was lying. so whatever. he still call me everyday and we talk all the time. last nite he told me that he loved me... I could not say it back for some reason. i can't allow myself to feel that way with him because he might hurt me again. He says he is over me but i think thats all a front. Because if he was over me like he say he is then why do he call me? I think about him all the time. And im still very much in love with him.. should i try this again and take a chance? or should i just let the past be the past and moce on? hellpp! im so confused.

I think it is time for you to move on! You deserve better than this. A guy that makes you walk on eggshells then breaks your heart is not worth your time. Don't take the chance--if your heart is broken too many times, you just become jaded, and you'll expect every guy afterward to treat you the same, even though they all won't. Make a clean break if you need to, and take the time to heal. Don't answer his calls or talk to him online. Take time to mourn the love that is over, and be careful who you take as a rebound. If you do decided to take him back, however, be very careful, and be very clear with him that this is HIS chance to prove himself, and he better work dang hard too. Good luck and much love!

~TD

Rating: 5

Thank you so much.. I really needed to hear that.

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I'm back after a hiatus! I have graduated college (yay!) and am working with Thoroughbred racehorses in Kentucky.

I enjoy giving advice to teens because now that I am older, I have a proper perspective of high school, but I am close enough in age that I don't think I'll come off as some idiot with adult problems that has no idea how teenage life works. Generally I answer love life questions, since that is where many self-image problems surface-not to mention it's highly confusing! If you are wondering about my own love life... well, I have been with my current boyfriend for 5 years. We are getting married once he finishes law school, and yes! We are high school sweethearts!

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