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Q: I was supposed to go to my friend's sweet 16 this past weekend at some hotel. Well I wound up not going because I got mad sick. So I get to school today and my friend, who was at my bffs sweet 16, told me that my bff [the one who turned 16] invited 5 guys up to the suite. I don't know how many guys actually went to the suite but my bff gave this guy who is 17 a head. this was her first bj she ever gave a guy and then he fingered her and she had freaking butt sex with him. WTF. and she didn't even tell me, I had to hear it from my friend. my bff hasnt even ever had normal sex and now shes not even a virgin [because sex is sex] and she did this with a guy she JUST MET and omg i think its so wrong. her first time was up the butt. I don't know what to do, I want to talk to her about it, but my friend said I can't mention anything to her because she said that everyone in the suite heard it and said it was sooooo gross. I'm actually pretty pissed at her, do I have a right to be? and i'm also worried that she's heading down the wrong path because she had to get her stomach pumped over the summer and she got high alotttt. ive never had a drink in my life, and ive never done any drugs whatsoever, i hate what it does to people. I feel like I'm losing her and I don't want her to become this out of control person she is becoming. I'm also 16 and i really don't know if I have a right to be mad at her. I don't know if I should talk to her. I don't know if this is even NORMAL for a 16 year old who tranferred to my highschool from a strict CATHOLIC school to be doing. wtf. any input. how would you guys feel? please answer all of my questions, I'm so emotional and confused right now. thank you.
Talk to her. Just because your other friend told you all this stuff doesn't even mean that it's true. You need to hear what your BFF has to say first before you acuse her of all this stuff. But if it IS true, just tell her everything you told us. Tell her you disapprove of all of this and it's hurting your relationship.

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heyimcaro
hiii! i'm caroline. i'm eighteen years old, and just started my freshman year of college. i have a magificent boyfriend who i love more than anything. we've been together over three years. he's also my best friend. speaking of which, my other best friends are also pretty fantastic. another huge part of my heart is devoted to god. he's blessed me with so much more than i deserve, and even though i fall short on a daily basis, he's still there for me, every step of the way. i'm a pretty simple girl- i love anything fun, texting, being outdoors, swimming, playing soccer, frisbee, or watching football, spending time with my family, and most of all- living my life to the absolute fullest.

to be frank, i'm not going to answer your questions about girl drama or pregnancy, because i have no experience in either of those categories, nor do i want to listen to you whine about how "we didn't use a condom" or "she's such a &*^#%!!!!". however, i'm totally open to anything else. drop something in my inbox and i'll get to it pretty quick- i'm quite the net nerd (:

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