Member Since: December 2, 2008
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**Sorry, but this is long** I am 16 female. Alex is my best guy friend and I have known him for about 14 years(since i was 2) and i think i am starting to like him. me and my other friends sometimes joke around and say we think he will end up seriously dating or marrying this other friend melissa who we have known since we were 5. The thing is me and Alex have gotten a lot closer this year and I am really starting to like him. He is the only person other than my bff that i feel like i can go to to talk about anything. I am totally comfortable around him and we always hang out but only in our group of friends. The two of us also just seem to click and we still talk to each other more than we do all our other friends when we all hang out. Does he like me? What should i do? I am worried if we were to go out it would make things ackward for our group of friends that has all hung out together for years. Then what if we broke up? Things would be ackward then it just wouldn't be the same when we all hung out. (link)
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first, you must figure out if he likes you, and if he does then...
im going to take the opposite postion than the previous poster. i think that you should go for it. if you guys click so well and you are so close than you will still click when you are together. as far as knowing so much about each other, well...thats a good and bad thing so ill do a quick pro/con list. pros:you dont have any skeletons in your closets(ie. your weird quarks wont annoy the other), you will have leapt through the most awkward parts of a relationship, and lastly you have history to build on (which often will serve as the glue to a relationship). cons:a break up could ruin a friendship and the group, the awkward stage can be fun in some relationships, and there could be feeling of awkwardness in that you have known him for most of your life.
either way you go there will definitely be pluses and minuses. if you dont date you might always wonder wat if and if you do then you could lose a close friend. i therefore restate that i think you should go for it. i think that the pluses out weigh the minuses, but that might be cuz im a romantic.
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Thanks. I'l probably just wait things out and see how things go. Maybe i should just wait and we could consider dating once we are out of highschool. What do you think? Wait or go for it now?
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