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my ex and i had dated for over a year a few years ago and then we dated other people on and off until july. we started dating and we were both really happy but i starting noticing that he was becoming more distant and so i talked to him about it many times. so we're both in highschool, same grade..all that jazz.
so it was almost four months and we started getting really tense, so i feared the worse.
then a week before four months he says he cant decide if he's happier with or without me..
so i wait all day, i went into school late, skipped lunch because i was scared to cry infront of him and i had been crying all morning.
so i went the rest of the day without crying and finally at one i broke down in his arms and i felt bad. so we talked a little bit in person but we started texting and he still couldnt decide so at like eleven that night i broke up with him hoping he'd be happier without me.. not so much
its been almost two weeks, and its not getting any easier. he said that if i was the same i was in the summer then he would date me again (happy, go lucky, enjoyable me) but i dont know how to be like that anymore.. any advice helps. thanks soo muchh!
happy thanksgiving.

Everyone goes thru heart breaks in their lifetime. They always get easier as time goes by. I promise.

No one should ever tell you that they will be with you if you go back to who you used to be. People change over time. Its a natural process. And someone who truly wants to be with you will love you for these changes and want to grow and change with you. Dont ever feel like you should change yourself for someone else. As long as your happy with yourself, thats all that matters.

The first step in healing a broken heart is learning to love yourself for you. Take a long look in the mirror and take notice to all the amazing qualities you have. Qualities that other people may even envy. Every single person in the world is amazing and beautiful in their own way. Yourself included. You do not need any one else to make you feel that way.

Many times, people will notice this extra bit of confidence you have about yourself. People including the boy that your having trouble with. And a lot of times that extra confidence draws peoples attention and makes them take notice to you that they have not have seen before. At that point, its up to you whether you want to bring them back into your life or not.

Learning to love yourself and the confidence it gives you does wonders. It has gotten me thru so many rough times, including some of my worst break ups.

This may not be your first heart break and I can guarentee you it will not be your last. But its the way that you handle it that makes it worse or better. If you take my advice, the heart breaks will still hurt, but not as much as the other girl who is sitting at home crying and trying to figure out what she did wrong and why she wasnt good enough. Instead of being her, you will be the girl who got hurt, but is moving on so much quicker because she knows that she is better off and that she will find someone who will love her exactly the way she is, and someone who doesnt, is not worth a second of her time.

I know that right now you feel like you ahve lost something. But if you learn to love yourself no matter what, you essentially have gained something that will last a lifetime.


I hoped I helped at least a little bit. Good luck to you and I wish you the best.

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(Rating: 5) this was the BEST advice i've been given.. like ever.
thank you soooo much!
that makes me feel good.
and it even brought a little tear to my eye.
:)
i'm going to try my very hardest to be happy and what you said makes me feel soooo much better.
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