about

My name is Sydney. I'm a 39 year old woman who has been giving sound, unbiased and caring advice to hundreds of people of all ages and backgrounds for the past 14 years. When giving advice or answering questions, I give the very best advice I have and all my answers are given with the utmost care and concern. There may be times when I tell you things that you don't want to hear but know that my advice is given in what I believe is your best interest, since my purpose here is to help you achieve the very best outcome for any situation or concern you present to me. My specialties are relationship issues (all kinds), mental health issues, sexual issues, spirituality/religious issues, and self-esteem issues. Please feel free to drop me a letter. I look forward to helping you.

advice

19f, Ok it seems like when I like someone, really like someone, they always end up disappearing somehow. And the people that really like me who I sorta settle for for are the people that I always end up hurting. I don't understand why I can't be happy with the nice ones. for instance one of the guys im talking to right now is really sweet and really likes me. I don't know why I am so reluctant to enter into a relationship with him. Why can't I just let myself be happy with the person who would try their best to make me happy versus one Im not sure cares. The other guy that I am interested in, who I like just a little more, I don't talk as much and I don't know if he REALLY likes me like he says he does. But somehow I find myself thinking about him more than the other guy and wondering who to choose. Its not like I don't talk to the other guy AT ALL and when I do talk to him he seems into me but he doesn't show as much interest as the first guy I mentioned. SO why am I still confused. I should know exactly who I want to be with and it should be the one that shows me they really care, right? I mean I do like him...I just happen to like the other guy too and a little more...i think. I just don't kno. I am so confused. Help me!!!

It sounds like you need a challenge of some kind in order for you to be really interested in a guy instead of appreciating who and what comes to you easily. You said that they guy that's really into you is sweet and I gather he wants to spend time with you and probably treats you the way you want to be treated. So why are you less interested in the nice guy? Probably because the other guy is more of a mystery to you because he doesn't show as much interest and he leaves you wondering about him and his motives. Don't fall for it and risk losing a wonderful guy in the process. I too used to go for the guys that were a "mystery" to me way more so than the ones that were really interested and doing that always left me hurt and even more confused. So when a really nice guy came my way, I learned to really appreciate him, the great attention he gives me and all the terrific things about him and I've been so much happier. So my advice is to let mystery man go and put your attention into the guy shows you without a doubt that he really likes you. Your life will be much happier.

[view]

(Rating: 5) Thanks I think thats what I am going to do.
<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker