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Q: Im 16f and live in a small town. I had a kidney transplant when I was seven, and have spent many years in the hospital. I have only had one true friend because of this, and she dumped me for my brother. Now I am a loner once again like I was before I met my 'so called friend'. We did EVERYTHING together and she even said we were best friends. I guess my brother is easy to flirt with or something. He is a total jerk to everyone in my family. We can't stand him most of the time, because of his drinking and attitude. I just hate that she dumped me as a friend for him, and now I have to see her everyday at school knowing she betrayed me, and seeing her when i come home because she comes over every night to be with him.. its just heartbreaking to know that I had one friend, and she chose my brother over me. What do I do? I've talked to her, tried meeting new people but since its a small town, its same ol' same ol', everyone already has their true friend in my school, and im the odd one out. Im not ugly or anything, its just people dont accept me as much because i dont smoke so i dont socialize with smokers, and im just not into going to after school parties and such. I have a job, can afford my own stuff, have good grades.. im just not having an easy time in my life when it comes to friends. It would be different if she just dumped me and I had another friend I could be with, you know? But I don't. So im a loner again. I feel as if the only way I will keep up a positive attitude is if I have someone I can do anything with, talk to about anything, someone who I know will be there for me, who cares for me, who makes me laugh. Someone who is a true friend. Without one, I am nothing.
yeah..no problem..sorry it took me so long to answer..i haven't checked this for a while..my email is pa_hua_xiong@hotmail.com , i wasn't sure how else i could give it to you..hopefully you get this.

Thanks, i know friends aren't "everything, everything" but there is no one else who understands me like she did. No one. I was in a club, but it ended last year because the principal left. Everyone treats me different as soon as they find out about my transplant. I look like eveyone else, no one would pretty much ever know if I never told them. They say they don't treat me different, but there is DEFINATELY a difference. Thanks for what you said, if you don't mind could i have your e-mail so I can send you more messages? Thanx :)

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