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Alright guys I really want to know what to do when in a relationship. I'm talking about a teen relationship. I'm exactly 13 years old and I want to know what should a 13 year old be doing when in a relationship? Ex: WEEK 1: MAKE OUT
MONTH 1: FEEL UP
like that
I really want someone my own age to anaswer this this and not someone older saying I'm too young for this stuff. Like I think after 9 months is good to start having sex but wat do u think? And I mean actual sex not like bg's or hj's and please include those in their! thanks!
You gave a low rating to all of the answerers, but all of their answers were good ones.
Here's my opinion, and I have a feeling you'll rate low, but just hear me out, and maybe think about what I'm saying, OK?
I'm 15. Not exactly your age. But I'm pretty close.
In middle school, I always wanted a boyfriend so badly. So, so badly. I'm pretty sure that if a guy was half sane, I would go out with them. (The one guy that did ask me out in that time period, was, disappointingly, not sane, lol) But somewhere along the line (maybe a few months before my 14th birthday), I realized that relationships were way too complicated to deal with at my age. Looking back on it, it was soo much better to not have gotten into any serious relationships back then. Why? So that I wouldn't have to wonder what you're wondering right now. Wouldn't have to ask myself when to kiss and why, obsess over whether he still likes me or not, play the jealousy game of "oh, you were SO flirting with her when I wasn't around!" Didn't have to do any of that. And I got by just fine.
During that summer before freshman year I realized that unless you're with someone that really matters to you, relationships will mean nothing.
And you're asking yourself, what does this have to do with my question?!
Everything, sweetie.
If you're with someone that really matters to you, making out, even having sex will come in good time. It isn't something to be planned, not saying, "In exactly ten days after school, I will give you a hand job." No, none of that. if you're with someone you really and truly care about and love, then you won't need to worry about that. Because the guy will make you comfortable and won't pressure you into doing anything you don't want to, or worse, allow you to do something that you're not ready for, even if you think you are. Cause he'll love you too much. And unless you've found a guy like that, not only should you start to look for a new one, but by no means should you consider giving him the time of day.
If you're looking for a set time frame to answer your question, you're never going to get one, sweetie, and the ones you will get will be absolutely wrong. Love has no timelines.
... But most importantly, if I haven't gotten through to you at all (I pray to God that's not the case) remember to use birth control or condoms if you plan on being sexually active. Lord knows we don't need another teen mother.
Me? I'm still waiting for my first "real" boyfriend, "real" kiss even. And I honestly don't care, because I know that when I do get those precious firsts, they will be a whole lot more special than those kids that had their firsts at 12/13. Just like those kids (like you, maybe?) who plan for sex with their boyfriends when they're in middle school, then regret it a few years later. I'd much rather save myself for marriage and never have to regret anything, because I'd be with the man forever and always.
Eventually, you, too, will figure out its all about quality, not quantity.
God bless, sweetie, I hope He shows you the light
(Rating: 5) Aww thanks :). It's just that I feel like all my friend's are giving bj's and all that crap. well thanks again!