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It's taken me a long time to admit to myself that I have low self esteem and am uncomfortable in my own skin. In most social situations I worry about what I say, how I stand, how I should act, and even how to look at people. It isn't a good feeling because I feel like it's destroyed my understanding of who I am. I know what like, what my hobbies are, and what I want to get out of life, but I just feel so confused about myself. I first started to notice this when I started to like a guy at school. I couldn't even maintain a steady conversation with him for very long and found myself questioning my actions. After that, I couldn't even sit normally. And now see how in denial I've been because I am always conscious of myself. And I take out my frustration on my parents and friends. I feel like I can change and when I do, I know I'll feel wonderful, because this has been going on for a long time now. I decided that I had to let go of liking this guy because I'm not ready to pursue someone if I don't even have a clue about myself. If anyone has any ideas or experiences with self esteem, I would appreciate you help so much. Because wow, I really need help.
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A lot of people are insecure, and everyone has insecure moments. The real thing you need to start with is not trying to change so much as control.
For instance, when you're in some social situation and you start to feel that insecure "oh my god what if I (insert insecurity here)" feeling come on, wipe your mind of thoughts. Just close your eyes for a moment and pretend no one's there.
As bad as this sounds, it helps to not be sober at first. It's like trying to learn hacky sack. You can't care what people are thinking of you, so I learned while drunk and high in high school. I'm not promoting underage drinking or smoking weed, but that's how I learned hacky sack and how I got over a lot of insecurities.
Another, more legal, way to get over insecurities is to force yourself into the situations that make you seize up the most. Sooner or later, when you keep throwing yourself into these, you'll adjust and you'll feel okay. Then the ones below that that give you the willies will seem like nothing.
It's scary and there isn't one set way for anyone to to do anything, but I hope that I helped at least a little bit, and I hope you can overcome this so you can go after that cute guy you gave up on. ^_^
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you really helped. im gonna try that closing my eyes thing. =]
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