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do you think its weird for someone to "brush up" on conversation topics before leaving the house, for ex: spending time looking it up on the internet or watching the show that everybody likes.

the idea sounds a little unsettling to me. i want to do it, to get over my shyness, but it feels like brushing up on conversation topics is like going out of your way for others to like you.

no it's not weird! HONESTLY speaking, there are just SOME PEOPLE who are sooo quiet and everytime you ask "what's up" they say "nothing." it's really quite annoying, so it's always good to have questions to ask or movies to talk about!

if you think about it, you always have to go out of your way for people to like you, otherwise no one will like you! so don't worry too much about it. but because you're shy, i strongly suggest when someone says "what's up" say what you did that day even if it's stupid. at least if you say "eh not much just lazed around" then AT LEAST the other person can say, "hahah yeah i like doing that, especially in the wintertime when ..." and they can talk about something. it's really difficult for people to find you interesting if all you say is "nothing." / "i'm fine. how are you?" so i think it's fine that you look up conversation topics :)

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much. you made me feel a lot better
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