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Q: ok so this year my school is starting a rotational schedule and so everyone has the same lunch period at the same time. and so i have one group of friends of ~ 6 people and then my other best friend who is not part of that clique -- she has her own circle of friends.

i want to sit with both groups but both sides are assuming i'll sit with them, and idk who to sit with! last year i sat with the group of 6 because my other bff didn't have lunch the same period as me.

honestly, i wanted to sit in a classroom and do homework during lunch after i ate with my other bff but i still need someone to sit with during actual lunch if i choose not to do homework one day.

sitting with the group of 6:
- PRO: i'd be in on the gossip (i wouldn't "fall" out of the circle)
- CON: i can't sit with my bff and i don't want to lose her as a friend

sitting with my bff:
- PRO: i get to see her cause i love her and she might do homework with me!
- CON: i might start falling out of the circle / the circle might get mad.

i know in the end it's upto me, and please don't say "one person vs. six" cause she has helped me more than those six people have combined.. i don't think i can sit with both cause my bff is friends with only one person in my circle.

(1) what do you think i should do?
(2) do you think i could possibly sit with both the girl and my group, encouraging that she talks to both me and the only other person that she's friends with in my circle?

You know what I think, I think in this centery now it been like that since I was in school and since our moms were school, now I think that everyone sit together. maybe ask your friend sit with you sometimes meet your friends they don't have become pals, and if you feel need sit with your frined and talk do so. you don't have sit same place everyday. I didn't I know i was in school, i Had few freinds they all sit different places, in once awhile I haven't talk one friend i sit with them, my other friends didn't care. if they care who you sit with they not your true freinds and not very understanding. they not notice you not sitting there or where your at. not they care they know your there they prolby thought your just visting your other friends, i am sure your friends feel the same way. i am sure they have other freinds in lunch room they might invited or go sit. don't worry to much about it. so there shouldn't be a circle anymore..

Rating: 5

very true -- some days i can sit with her and some days i can sit with my other friends.

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