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I've played volleyball for about 6 years- going into 9th grade- but I can't
stand the people on my team.

I really love volleyball and now that I'm going into high school, now is
when it starts getting serious.

However, I don't feel like part of the team because everyone on the team is
friends and I'm just kind of stuck outside of their crowd. Every time I go
to practice and a match, I feel like I don't belong there and it's getting
really irritating at how they treat me sometimes.

It's getting to the point where playing on the school team isn't fun
anymore and going to practices and matches just seems strenuous cause I
have to deal with their crap. I don't feel like talking to the coaches
either, because they play favorites and I don't think that it would
help.

My parents don't want me to quit the team because they say that there are
always going to be people like that, but I can't take any of this anymore
and it's getting really frusterating- I have no friends on the team and I
always feel left out and it's starting to feel like what's the point of
continuing with this if I don't enjoy it...

What do you think?

girl, if you love volleyball, then stay on the team. have you considered asking one or two of your REAL friends to join the team with you? that way you'll have at least one person to talk to.

have you considered joining a volleyball team OUTside your school? that's always a possibility.

honestly, i know it's hard because your favorite sport is supposed to be FUN and enjoyable, but with people who are like that on your team, it can get hard. it's totally understandable if you don't want to talk to your coach.

i agree with your parents -- life is alllll about teams and groups. try to be nice to them and join in their conversations, but if they're rude / mean and / or tease you, you should definitely not stay on the team.

i'd say join a team outside your school OR get a few friends to join the team with you.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks! And my best friend used to be on the team, but she quit this year cause she was having the same problems- we've decided to stick to beach volleyball just for fun and play on the intermural team.
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