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I'm 13 and i cut myself,drink, suffer from depression, and have suicidal thoughts. i need help but i don't want to speak to anyone because no one knows. and i want to stop without some one even knowing i had this. how do i do this?? i'm a mess.

First: Keep fighting! You can get through this, with a little effort. I promise you that much.

I'd really highly recommend that you tell someone close to you. At the top of the list I'd say to tell your parents or a school guidance counselor or psychologist if you have any means of getting to one. You may think no on would understand, or you'd get in trouble, but they'd be more concerned with helping you and listening to you than anything else. You're in a very bad situation and need someone who can take care of, and nurture you.

If you feel you can't do that, AT LEAST tell a close friend. What would it hurt if someone knew..? It'd help, just in case something ever happened. Overall, whoever you tell, you need someone close to you to watch your back. You need someone to be able to talk your feelings over, because the situation is a ton harder when you're in it alone -- Especially at such a young age.

Have you considered telling an aunt or uncle, maybe? Cousin? Sibling? Anyone, please. You may not want anyone to know anything was even wrong, but it'll come up in the future anyway. You'll get better so much faster if you let someone help you. I strongly encourage you to tell someone who can take charge and help you snap out of this.

And if something ever gets so bad that you need to, call one of the numbers provided in the last answer. It's scary, but you won't regret it if you do. The help will never hurt you; What you're doing now WILL.

Please fight these issues. It will only get worse if you give up and feel sorry for yourself. It's good that you want to get better, just know that it's going to be very difficult, but you can do it!

XOXO
KAT.

*EDIT: If you feel like there's no one at home or school, in a friend sense.. Try to see a counselor. They're not as bad as their reputations have made them seem, and they have to be completely confidential.

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(Rating: 5) thanks. but i don't realy have any1 close to me... when i come home from school al my mom does is sleep... i have no friends i always get bullied.. sometimes it feels like i'm raising myself.. but I'll try
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