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E-mail: Wonderlust@weirdness.com
Gender: Male
Location: Iowa
Occupation: retired locomotive engineer retired military
Age: 60
Member Since: August 8, 2008
Answers: 40
Last Update: August 21, 2008
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Hi, it's the summer time and two years ago I wrote a guy a letter telling him how I feel and he responded three months later over that very summer. We talked it seemed because his friend suggested it, and his friend said he was interested, he may have been lying. We talked for a week and maybe two days. Afterwards, never again. I got back to school and I couldn't even look him in the eye. He and I both would avoid eye contact and never spoke over 10 words to one another. Now he has a girlfriend. I want him to be happy. I spent most of my summer not thinking of him, but afraid when the time came for me to return to school that the feelings would return. I saw him 4 days ago and I felt a jolt when our eyes met for a heartbeat. I'm afraid and I feel pathetic, which I am kind of. I don't want to like him. I want to be over him. But how do I handle these residual feelings that keep returning? (link)
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Wow.
You know, our parents do not really raise us to know how to become adults. This sounds like the "Comedy of Errors".
If he has a girlfriend, then obviously he must feel more comfortable with her. But, as a guy myself, I must say that there is something in his reaction that tells me that he is running away from his own feelings about you in an averse way.
If he has a girlfriend but he cannot speak to you about this, then I think there is a permanent block you cannot overcome, because he feels you and he are uncompatible.
Do you understand what "co-dependency" is????? You do not want to fall into that trap! When you "need" somebody but you just cannot escape from the fact that the other person is no good for you and you are drawn to that other person, that is co-dependency!
I do not know how old you are, but you sound like you do not have sufficient interpersonal experiences in opposite-sex relationships. Just realize that you have a lot more to learn in that case, and keep an open mind and as they say, "move on" to the next relationship that you can indeed enjoy being in.
As a guy, that is my advice to you!
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Thank you. I'm afraid I'll keep liking him, although I've barely thought about him. It's now just hit me overwhelmingly so. Anyway, thanx hun. I'm over him I just don't want to fall back into the co-dependency tray u mentioned. Thanx for the long reply, great for a guy.
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