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Q: I am 26 years old and just recently started dating a guy about a month ago. We are having major major problems in the bedroom! He is always starting it off by kissing me all over fingering me and licking me, and then when i touch him he is soft.I am used to guy getting hard right away when we kiss passionately or he touches me. This one is a real challenge to get hard. I give him head and he is still soft. It gets pretty discouraging for me, I dont know what to do. I asked him if he has a problem, cause after all he is 36 so it might be getting to be an issue, He said no he has never had the problem before. I asked if he was attracted to me and he said YES. So where is the problem? am i the one doing this all wrong? Please help me. THere is a total blockage in the bedroom and this shouldnt be happening at all.
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If he is a steady drinker that would be a good starting place. If I drink more than two beers it is over for me. It does sound like he may have a problem. He could be nervous but not all the time. And if he is having problems, just the fact that you know will make him withdraw even more. The last thing you need to do is complain about a problem he has no control over. Helping him through this will show him you are on his side. That will relax him and who knows? And as a foot note, sex should not be a good measure for a relationship. Remember that you both come from different backgrounds and he may be having culture shock to the max!!!!! I knew this guy who's wife only had sex on Saturday. If something got in the way and he missed it, that was it until next Saturday. I wonder how he would react if he hooked up with another woman who wanted sex 3 times a day. Think he would live? Anyway, I was having sex 4 times a week and I always wondered how difficult that would be. Well 25 years later my wife is having some female issues and guess what. Once a week is a bonus. The thing is I need to understand what my wife is going through and go through it with her. I complained for about two years until she finally told me what was going on. Now I feel bad about what I complained about. A great relationship is worth what you put into it. Take any bonus you can. It's worth it in the long run!
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Thanks Mike... we are both from the same culture he seems to like sex just as much as I do and he says not having a problem getting an erection. He is a heavy drinker but when we attempt it he is sober!
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Real advice is not always good, good advice is not always fair, but taking it will get you somewhere!
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