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I'm just a 17 year old girl who loves giving advice to her friends, and wanted to try to help more people by further expanding her advice.

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ok so,this guy and i have been talking to each other (we kissed each other before back in january,and he was drunk)and well during that time i liked him for a couple months,but he never talked to me in school and he told me he didn't want a relationship,and i was prety much fine with that.Then last night we hung out.He was with his friends and they were drunk,and he kept trying to pull me aside and i finally went with him,and i could tell he wanted to kiss me.Two of our friends started to kiss and he was like see hear that? then we were just playing with his phone and he was like you don't have to if you don't want too,and i said i know.It was getting late so he walked me and my friend to my house and he left,he seemed okay because he was still flirting with me.It was cute,he was helping me down this mountain lookg thing,telling me to be careful,and racing me and stuff.I texted him and said sorry he said whatever it's fine i did'nt want oyu doing something you did'nt want to do,and i said i wanted too but not there,and he was like other people were doing it,and i said well im different and he said that's fine.But the thing is i wanted too kiss him,but i knew i probably would've started liking him again which i dont want because i know nothing will come of it.He also got with one of my friends,and i was mad about (it happen in april) that he said he was stupid and drunk when he did it.So now im second guessing myself.Like im confused,he's a really sweet guy with girls.But he dosent want to be tied down,and he seems to always be "drunk" when he get's with girls which is a turn off,because i feel like im just one of those girls(like he asked me before how far i'd go with him,and if i went over his house would i do stuff).So he kind of has me confused.Like he can be a jerk and a sweet guy at the sametime.Do you think i made the right decision by not kissing him? so i just like forget about it and move on?

thanks,sorry it was long!

17/f

Dear Confused,

Personally, I think you made the right choice in not kissing him! Obviously you weren't comfortable with the situation, so it's a very good thing you had enough respect for yourself to not do something you weren't all willing to do.
Although you wouldn't mind kissing him, it does seem like this guy just wants to mess around, not have a real relationship like the one you're looking for. From the looks of it, he's just one of those guys who just wants to have fun instead of being a loyal boyfriend. My advice to you is to move on and find a guy who respects you enough to not ask "how far will you go" and who truly sees you for the self-respectable and amazing girl you are.

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much :) i think i made the right decision after all.
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