so...my name is Rebecca and I'm 17, going to be a senior in high school . i am currently at either the 2nd or 3rd spot in my class academically, but plan to graduate as valedictorian...so if you have a problem academically I'd love to help! i want to be a journalist (and kind of am), which means i may be a little harsh, but i do have a not-so-sharp edge (don't get me wrong, i can be sassy, I'd just rather smile :) ) . I love knowing that i can help someone and I'm actually of use to someone. When i was younger i was more shy, and all people knew about me was that i was a good friend and for the people i answer...i hope you think so too!
Also, God is big in my life. Like my whole life. And for anything I help you with...I give Him all the glory. It's all about Him and what He's given us. :)
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My friend (15/F) is definitely over weight. I know that nobody's perfect, and stuff. But she's at the point where it's a potential health risk! It could possibly be my fault for not helping her earlier, but I can't exactly change that now.
Her parents don't exactly help, though. Her dad makes unhealthy, meaty, casseroles almost every night. So, she isn't used to eating healthy foods. And I guess she's too oblivious to notice what she's eating.
Her parents also pressure her a lot. For example, there isn't a waking moment when her dad isn't nagging about some sort of walking. To be blunt, both of her parents are always reminding her of her obesity.
She has a short attention span, and gets annoyed by anything repetitive in the least bit. So, repeating exercises makes her walk away.
She recently bought a Jane Fonda exercise tape, which she used when she was younger to lose weight (which worked). She is convinced that only that exercise tape will work. After a month, she still hasn't received the tape (yes, I'm sure that she did order it).
My question is: how do I help her lose weight without being too pushy? Or should I just wait for the tape? But what if it takes months before she gets the tape?
Also: she will do almost anything I say, as long as it's not too harsh. So, obedience isn't an issue. She's just really impatient and ADD.
SORRY for the massive question! I tried to make it easier to read! Thank you for any answers! (link)
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ir's so awesome that you want to help your friend and you can do that without being harsh. first of all...i'm sure a tape COULD POSSIBLY help, but in my experience if your in your room with a t.v. and an excersise tape is sitting next to you, it's a lot easier to turn to mtv and forget about excersise especailly if you're not really into it. maybe the way you could really help her is through a "buddy" thing. we could all stand to be a little healthier right? tell her you want to start eatin healthier and you guys could do it together! you could choose better options for food at school or both bring a helthy lunch. this should help even if she continues eating the not-so-great dinners (though i would mention moderation with those). you could also work out together. there are excersises that you guys could do that are not repetitive. you could play sports like basketball, soccer, not formal stuff but it will help. you can also take excersise classes. stuff like dance class or martial arts can b so much fun and good for you. maybe it'll be something you two enjoy and continue with. if she is in SERIOUS danger health-wise or the parental comments get to her, she should talk to a professional. but it sounds like just your friendship can help if you stick together. :) sorry for the massive answer! good luck.
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