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Okay, so I’ve kinda lied about my sexual experience. Not just to one person, but to everyone I know. When I was 14, some of my friends started losing their virginity. And I didn’t want to be the odd one out, so there was this guy that they knew I liked, and he was moving. So I told them (untruthfully) that I had sex with him the night before he left. They didn’t have his number or anything so I knew they wouldn’t ask him. Anyway, so all my friends thought I wasn’t a virgin anymore. And whenever people would ask me I’d always say I wasn’t, usually because I was with my friends.
Now I’m 17 and I’m still a virgin. I’ve just never had a boyfriend that I was serious enough with to have sex with him. Well now, I’m really serious with my boyfriend and I’m totally into him, and given the chance I would definitely have sex with him. We’ve come very close a couple times, but I was drunk so he wouldn’t go through with it. The problem is he thinks I’m not a virgin, but I am.
I’m afraid that I’m not gonna know what to do when the time comes that we actually do have sex. I mean, if he knew it was my first time, I wouldn’t be so worried, but he’s probably gonna expect that I know what I’m doing, and he’s not a virgin so he’s gonna know.
I don’t want him or anyone else to know that I lied about it, so I need to find a way to make it work so that he doesn’t know I’m a virgin. I know I might bleed and that’ll give it away, but if he says anything about that then I know I’ll just say something like he’s bigger than the last guy I had sex with. So anyway my questions are: (they may be dumb but bear with me)
1. What should I do with my hands while he’s actually thrusting? Like what’s gonna be the hottest for him?
2. Should I kiss him during?
3. Should I give him a blowjob first?
4. How do I subtly let him know that I want him to lead? (most important) Because if he’s leading, that’ll probably take the pressure off me a little bit.
5. I’ve heard that sometimes the guy doesn’t fit…how do I make sure that doesn’t happen to me?
Please don’t give me any of that lecture “if you’re not ready…” stuff. I’ve been ready for a long time I just haven’t had the right guy.
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I know you don't want to hear this answer but you obviously value your virginity to wait for the right guy and if you like him and trust him that much you should just tell him the truth.
But it's your decision and if you want to keep up the lie heres the secret every one is different, when you kiss where do you put your hands, just where it's comfortable right and you will have seen other people kiss in other ways, it's just the same.
If he "doesn't fit" you are going to be one of the very few people it's happened to so congratulations at finding that guy. But it happens to some people at the begining of sex if you rush in to fast and aren't turned on enough, if you involve a little foreplay i really doubt that would happen.
Just do what you feel like theres no rules and your lucky being the girl is a major advantage if you dont take the lead he will, just make sure when you get to the condom stage he is on top, so when he sits up to put it on lie down on your back, works a treat. a few tips if your trying to kiss but its kind of akward because of the possition kiss his neck and shoulders. don't try and turn him on any more while hes thrusting just put your arms around him and enjoy, it will be hot enough for him already. goodluck.
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