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Latly, everything has been so different. but the one thing that i really want it my first kiss. I'm 16 yrs old and it is somthing that i want. Everytime i like someone, i find a way to tell them and it never turns out good! i don't want to wait, this is somthing i want this summer. I really want a b/f beecause it will make me feel better and away to escape from my crazy family!i just want someone to keep me close and care about me but i don't know what to do about it. So if u could plz help me in any way, i would appreiciate it very much! thanks

I have edited this answer in response to your feedback, in which I am appreciative for. I took everything you said in your question and looked at your feedback and I understand what you are concerned about more now.

I understand what it is to be lonely or to want that first kiss, and dance, and closeness that some relationships provide. I am hoping that you get out of that shyness so that you can get out there and mingle so that you meet someone who interests you. Try finding a friendship first and take it from there. Do you have any male friends that you are cool with now? If so and you have interest in them, since you already know them, why not ask them to go out with you sometimes and build it from there. If you don't wanna wait, then don't wait darling, get out there and go places. Invite someone to hang out with you, as friend and take it from there. Good Luck and be careful because some times relationships hurt. I wish you the best of luck of finding that special someone, he's out there somewhere looking for you too! I am also sorry for misunderstanding your first question. I only went on the things that you indicated. Again, best of luck to you.



OK. Here we go Miss Lady:

You start out with Lately everything has been so different. - What's different lately? difference in your thoughts, difference in your family atmospehere? difference in you personally? difference in guys and your views of them? Difference in negative or positive things in your life period?

You want a relationship with someone- I get this.
So,what are you doing to meet people who you would be interested in getting to know before this first kiss. (Did you catch me on that?) It is important to get to know someone first, so that it does go right since it hasn't been going right. Ok?

This is going back my questions to you in the beginning: If you want a boyfriend because there is someone you are interested in getting to know, cool. But if you only want a boyfriend to feel better about yourself, I am concerned. Also, if you also want a boyfriend to escape your crazy family, I am concerned more. Why? Because, you must learn to feel better about yourself on your own. Try reading some books, or sites focusing on words like learning to love myself, feeling good about myself, motivating myself, encouraging self esteem. Before you can feel good about anyone else, or love anyone else,you must start with self first. IF YOU DON'T feel good about yourself, you will not feel good about anyone else, and maybe this is why your relationships or everytime you like someone doesn't work out.

Next: It isn't fair to put a guy in a situation to hold him accountable and responsible for your escaping your crazy family as you have called them. Also, it isn't a guys responsibility to make you feel good about yourself. To place this responsibility on someone other than yourself,is very selfish. I know you don't mean to be and I know how you are feeling too, but there has to be some self work first OK? You have to care about yourself before you can care about anyone else and is it fair not to care about anyone else fully but expect them to care about you fully?

Now,why not first talk to your crazy family to release what's going on inside of you to cause you to feel less about yourself, requiring the need to feel better about self? The first step is to address anything that's hurting you, bothering you or causing self issues so that you can let it go once you have addressed it.

hope this has helped a little. You can email me at sophia_pettus@yahoo.com

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(Rating: 3) Wow, what you said is totally not me! i feel great about myself. and i want a boyfriend for someone who i can care about and be with. Someone to hold me close and love me, not for my own escape! sorry if i made it sound that way. thanks for trying though.
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