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One of my "friends" is always always always trying to be in the spotlight. It's so annoying. I'm like not even her friend anymore because she's treated me so badly and stepped all over me to get attention. All my other friends knew this about her and were on my side, but then she shoved me out of the way (like she always does). So, now they're on her side =[
I just don't know what to do. I'm a generally shy person at heart, but when I'm with my friends it's so much easier to be outgoing and such. In fact, I am quite outgoing with friends. It's just that with her always around sometimes even literally shoving me out of the way, it's so hard to be myself. Every time I try and say something funny, she'll do something stupid like scream or squawk like a chicken so everybody looks at her (I'm not even kidding, she really does this) and they'll all laugh saying things like "Wow, you're so special!" or "That was interesting!" And they're not even being sarcastic. She craves the attention, will do anything to get it, and the worst part is that they actually do give it to her.
I know that she's immature and I'd like to just be able to let this not affect me. But I've already tried so hard and nothing ever works. It's really really difficult to ignore her when she always puts herself right there in the middle of everything. God I'm so sick of it.
I just want advice to help me get through these situations. And I really don't need the standard "Just ignore her, be your own person" because I know that already. It just doesn't work for me in this situation...

How irritating is that! First, I would do more than just ignore her, I would stay away from her and the people she hangs around with period, and find new friends. If she has stepped all over you to get attention, then it's time to cut that off as you said you have done. With the other friends:

I don't know what you mean by on her side - if they are ignoring you or stepping on you too then they aren't friends anyway, so what are you losing besides the aggrevation?

The loud squawk thing is silly, how do you know this isn't an inside joke between everyone but you? I want to point of something important to me,and I am going to ask that you make it important to you too. "smile"

If someone is a friend, a true one, there is no need to fight or require attention, because it's about affection not attention. Also, if you have to go out of your way to get attention or shift attention then that would make you just as guilty as she is for even seeking attention. you feel me? Now, make sure this is a thing of maturity growth and not jealousy on your behalf ok.

I know that sometimes, friends outgrow each other mentally, and within the inner person, maybe this is happening. I understand it's hard to ignore when she puts herself in the middle of everything- she has to do this because she is self centered. Now put yourself above everything so that you are placing yourself first and distancing yourself from that crowd. If they are going to entertain her, then allow them to do this without your interference or need to feel compatible. It's not worth it girl! Once people see you are doing your own thing, they will either come around and respect that type of change or they will say you're being stuck up and hate on you, due to the fact that you are showing that you have no need for attention, in crowd or acceptance from people who don't wish to accept you for your maturity.

Do you go to any events at school, church or community? Do you have interests or hobbies? Are there clubs to support those hobbies/interest? if so join some and meet new friends and kick it with them. If you still want to be cool with the crowd, excluding Miss Chicken squaker, ask the others one to do something or hang out and don't invite her. Hope this helps, if it doesn't, please let me know.

sophia_pettus@yahoo.com

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