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Lately my boyfriend has been really busy, which is a huge 360, because I was always the busy one. Now, I'M the one who has nothing to do and always wants to hang out, but he's always working.
Then, when he has a day off, he'll call me and we make plans, but when that day finally comes, he's sleeping in. I understand he's tired, but I'm tired too. I'm tired of the false promises he's making me and I can only put up with so much.
I call him up while I'm upset and flustered (I'm only human and I have the right to be), then he'll say something on the lines of, "See, this is why I don't want to hang out with you, because this is how you act."
I thought he'd be more understanding because he used to be in my position, but now, it's like he's taking advantage of it. I'm the only one who's being understanding because I keep taking his crap. I'm so tired of getting my hopes up and being letdown.
Now, he made plans with me again to hang out on his day off, and I don't know how to respond.
I want to decline because I feel like he doesn't deserve me, that I'm not some lightswitch he can turn on and off as he pleases, and that I've had it. I don't want to give him what he wants.
On the other hand, why should I be so spiteful? Because in the end, that's what I wanted.. to spend time with him, and I'm gonna pass it up? But I don't want to give in. Like I said, I don't wanna play on his terms and play whenever it's "convenient" for him.
What should I do about this? Any thoughts or help would be appreciated. (link)
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Well i think one problem is that you are calling him while you're upset. This is never a good idea. You two need to talk calmly about it. And in my opinion, the tired thing is no excuse. You could always go to his house and fall asleep together. He should want to see you no matter how tired he is, and he certainly shouldn't back out of your plans together. Let him know that it really hurts you. Hopefully this will help him to understand. Good luck!
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You're right, i shouldn't call when I'm upset. but it's hard to see him bc we live kinda far from each other. anyways, thanks!
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