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I'm that person that everyone calls or e-mails when they need advice. It doesn't matter the subject, they contact me. I don't give you the answer you want to hear and most of my advice is not your mother's advice, if you want your mom's advice--Go ask your mom or mother figure. If you ask a question you will always get an honest answer--note: I did not say the answer you want-- I said an honest answer. If you ask me something I have to research to answer, I will research it and provide you with the source if you ask.
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Do you think it's right for my sister who is 3 yrs younger (I'm 59) to insist my grandchilren (5&4)call her GRANDMA instead of AUNT? She married my ex-husband 6yrs ago. She has 6 grandchildren of her own! I realize her husband is their grandfather and I divorced him so he says she can do whatever she wants but she is their aunt and they are confused because everyone refers to her as two different people. I have let my feelings be known and I feel it's in bad taste and disrespectful to me but also it's causing problems in my big family. Should I let it go?
Both of you should let the kids pick what they want to call her. You have voiced your opinion and while I agree they should respect it, it doesn't sounds as if your sister or your ex care what you think. I had multiple grandparents growing up and they let me choose what to call people. I have done the same with my children. It doesn't really matter what they call her, they know who grandma is and who loves them and does for them. They also know who plays childish games. If she is insistent on grandma call her grandma ______ whatever her first name is. That's what we finally did. It settles the arguments, the kids aren't confused and while it annoys some people it's the easiest solution. Remember when your kids were growing up and you had to pick your battles? This is the same thing only with your own sister and ex who should but obviously don't have more respect for you than they do. My daughter has a Grandma Gail, Grandma Anne, Grandma Betty, Granny, Grandmommy, Nana and Mimi if that helps.
(Rating: 4) Thank you and I'd totally agree if this were an outside person marrying my ex but it's my sister and is their aunt first and it should be recognized for what it is.